Ds2 got 106 maths, but only 99 in English grammar and 98 in reading . He also failed science. I am worried about implications going forward and what I should do for secondary.
He has concentration and organisation problems. He will literally forget a bag I have just put in his hand or an instruction given a couple of minutes ago.
I struggle to get him to do his homework as anything he can't do straightaway he just gets angry and refuses to do. In fact I struggle to get him to do any work full stop. He is addicted to Minecraft/Roadblox and although I limit his time he swears and shouts when I take him off. He really 'loses' himself. I feel the games are his way of relaxing and he finds it easier to make friends on this forum than at school where he is often made fun of. He struggles to manage his emotions and when I am even mildly reprimanding him he says I am 'shouting' at him despite not raising my voice.
My older children weren't like this at all and Ireally don't know how I should handle him. The older children feel I am too 'soft' with him but I can't take the daily battles. We will have the morning tantrum about clothes sensitivity and the afternoon ones about time limits playing games. He will just shout at me until he gets his own way.
His report says he responds well to one to one adult attention and praise which I would definitely agree with. His dad left last year and he was witness to the fallout from this and I know he struggles with this and his anger increased and he had separation anxiety issues with me.
I have other children, a full time job and my life is a full time balancing act and I feel none of it is done perfectly but I do the best I can.
He is really quite good at maths (and science despite failing his SATs!) and I can see compared to his siblings he is just as 'clever' but doesn't concentrate and work. His report says verbally he is good at coming up with English ideas but not so good at putting these ideas onto paper. We are a very bookish household but whilst he likes being read to he doesn't pick up a book himself.
I desperately want him not to miss out on opportunity at school because of things I could do to help him. He will be going to the local comp and lessons in especially the middling to lower sets can be disruptive and certainly not what he needs.
I'd like some advice on how to help him at home as I feel I am failing badly and not just schoolwork but in managing his emotions and concentration and organisation as this is likely to get him in trouble at secondary school where there more expectation on the child to become independent.
Any ideas and hope for going forward?