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3 children with the same name reception class - would you be annoyed?

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Twozealotmorethan1 · 12/07/2017 21:24

My son is due to start reception in September. It's a large school with a 3 class intake per year. We got class lists through this week and I was surprised to see that there girls with the same name have been put in the same class rather than spread between the three. They are the only three girls in the year with that name and the name is relatively common around here, but not overly so (for what difference that makes). For the purposes of this post, let's say they are called Sophie. Aside from not making it easy for the class teacher of that class, I think it's quite unfair on the girls, especially as in this school, unlike some others I've heard about, the classes stay unchanged throughout the primary school and so these children will be together until age 11 at least.
I can't help think that it's inevitable that the girls will become known as Sophie P / Sophie E etc according to their surnames and may even be more likely to attract unkind nicknames as they get older e.g. 'Big' Sophie, 'Fat' Sophie etc.
I realise it's not always possible to avoid having more than one child with the same first name in a class and I know various factors are taken into account when setting class groups but I can't help think that in a school with three class entry this could have easily been avoided? I would be a bit irritated if I was one of their parents. I have a younger child who will go to the school too in due course and am tempted to feed back to the school politely that I don't think this approach is helpful. What do you think?

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coddiwomple · 12/07/2017 23:53

I had to stealthily photograph the coat hooks for a list

Grin Grin Grin

our schools are so stressed about phone usage around the children (might have something to do with their Ofsted rating), I would have been scared to be kicked out!

paxillin · 12/07/2017 23:55

Clipboard and write them down, coddiwomple? Looks even weirder Grin.

SnickersWasAHorse · 12/07/2017 23:56

I would have thought it to be unusual to give out a list with first and surname on to all parents.

As for the mixing of classes. It isn't always a case of 'we only mix them at the end of year 2' or whatever. It's generally whenever they need to be mixed.

pastafairy · 12/07/2017 23:57

My class next year has Laura Smith, Laura Smithson and Laura Smythe (names changed but you get the gist!)

SnickersWasAHorse · 12/07/2017 23:58

I'll give a class list for Christmas cards etc but only with first names on.

WizardOfToss · 13/07/2017 00:01

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LockedOutOfMN · 13/07/2017 00:04

Ceto
The school shouldn't be handing out class lists unless it's had permission from every parent involved - otherwise it's a breach of the Data Protection Act.

Our school asks parents for this authorisation as part of the admissions paperwork, along with asking permission to publish recognisable photos of the child. I believe this is pretty standard.

paxillin · 13/07/2017 00:06

Coat hooks are first names only, so stealth copying should be fine.

treaclesoda · 13/07/2017 00:10

Our school don't give out class lists of any variety. I only know the names of a few children in my son's class.

MaryTheCanary · 13/07/2017 01:34

When schools are assigning classes there are lot of things they have to consider--many of them a lot more important than names. It's hard to get everything absolutely perfect. I'm sure the class teacher will work something out.

mrz · 13/07/2017 05:35

"A few have often told me that they find it hard / annoying when there are children with the same name in their classes. I" it's a lot easier if they're all called Sophie ...fewer names to remember on that first morning Smile. Certainly not annoying. Children are individuals with their own character, which you soon learn even if they have the same first name.

BikeRunSki · 13/07/2017 05:44

DD is one of several girls in her class with the same first name. I am not annoyed by this, nor is she. It's Reception. She likes being "Lucy P". It adds more letters to get short name! It is a one class intake school though.,

When DD started in September last year, they did a staggered start over a fortnight, with some children in the mornings, some coming in the afternoons. We were given a list of who was in each group - both groups and their schedule on the same piece of paper, so essentially a class list. First names and surnames.

SavoyCabbage · 13/07/2017 06:25

The head at my school slips on an alphabet patterned tabard and does lunch duty with the dinner ladies.

mrz · 13/07/2017 06:40

Yes my head was mopping up in flooded toilets last week and cooked lunch when the cook fainted. Heads do what they need to do for smooth running of school, some may not be in the job description, however class organisation is part of their workload.

jamdonut · 13/07/2017 07:22

A class I was in a while back had 3 Joshua's . There was also 2 in the other class!
We have also had 3 Teagans(Teegan, Teigan) , 2 in 1 class and a boy Tyler and a girl Tyler.
It's not a problem.
I'm one of 2 members of staff with the same first name in the same year group. We are known as Jamdonut H and Jamdonut M. We have two lots of teachers with the same surname, who are not related or married. We just use other initials to identify them.
It really, really isn't a problem , OP !

SoupDragon · 13/07/2017 07:33

I must say that I do think it odd when multiple "Sophies" end up in one class when there are 2 classes with none. It's not something I would complain about though, I've just idly wondered why they didn't go through at the end and swap one Sophie for a similar Jane from another class. I do know that sorting the classes in a balanced way is a complete nightmare though - what they need is a sorting hat! Our primary seems to get a balance of age, sex and "school nursery"/newbie children.

I think DS1s class had 1 boy and 2 girls with names that all shortened to the same thing (luckily the boy used his full name though :)) and DS2 had a group of three who rhymed which always made me smile - they sounded like a cartoon set of triplets or a comedy trio.

In DD's class, one set of duplicates separated themselves by one being known by a particular diminuative name all the time.

It does all work out and I agree that the children don't seem to mind. I don't think my DC have been in classes where there are children with the same name but DS1 was one of 7 in his year at secondary.

xxproudmummyxx · 13/07/2017 07:52

Feel sorry for teachers and schools, they can't do anything right these days, even having the same names in one class is an issue!!
Get a life OP this is ridiculous!!

MiaowTheCat · 13/07/2017 08:24

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thatdearoctopus · 13/07/2017 08:40

"Swap a Sophie for a similar Jane from the other class?!" Hmm

Until Jane's mum comes in to ask why she's been split from Katie and Emily and it's let slip that she was switched to please Sophie's mum who wanted her snowflake Sophie to be the only one.
Until a new girl arrives. Called Sophie.

Whatmusiccandoforchildren · 13/07/2017 08:46

If this gets 1000 posts the OP will be my new hero!

UserThenLotsOfNumbers · 13/07/2017 08:50

It's not the school's fault if the parents call their children the same names lol
I remember being at school with lots of Emma's, Sarah's, Thomas' and James'.

BerriesandLeaves · 13/07/2017 09:02

I always had another girl in the same class throughout school with the same name. I never minded at all and was always pleased to have a normal name not one that might get laughed at. I also liked the camaraderie with the other girl in Infant school. Only time it ever caused a problem was in year 7 when the form tutor accused me of something the other Berries had done. My horrified protests in the days when answering back wasn't really done made her realise straight away she'd made a mistake which was confirmed by the victim of the "crime" so that was sorted quickly.

paxillin · 13/07/2017 09:06

The problem in our school would be that there is more than one name occurring twice or more. There are two or more of Ava, Eva, Isobel, Max, Lina, Mia/Mya/Maya, Kaden and Jayden.

Avoiding clashes would mean lots of "forbidden pairings". This leaves little scope to balance age, SEN, sex or attainment.

RustyBear · 13/07/2017 09:15

At DS's playgroup in the early 90's they had Hayley, Cayley, Cayleigh, Keeley, Kylie and Carly...

crumpet · 13/07/2017 09:18

If they are in the same year they will still be Sophie X,Sophie Y and Sophie Z. Ds has 4 James's, in 3 classes in his year (45 kids in the year) and they are invariably linked to their surnames.

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