I am going to see the head tomorow, any tips or advice welcome on how to handle this

[WotzsanEgg]

Hi all

Sorry long.....

Situation. Friction between my DD1 and another girl since year 3 now year 6.

Started off by this girl trying to exclude my dd playing with a group of friends and got to the point where this girl was shouting that my DD was nasty and name calling. Pushing her away and standing on her shoes and rough in PE towards her.

Stuffs go on and this girls parents have been to school make complaint that it is all my DDs fault. I can only put this down to my DD seeing this girl hit another child and then this girl threatened my DD that if she said anything she would get her in to trouble. She then obvioulsy decided to turn it around and get my DD into trouble first.
My dd didn't say anything because girl who got hit asked her not to say anything anyway (not sure about that, but thats' no the issue).

Since this began I have said to DD1 to stay away from her and play with others, which she does. I have spoken to her teacher who has been off ill alot recently.

Kids could take games in yesterday, they weren't meant to but some took in nintendo, which my DD doesn't have and she took a board game (like a mufti day - swap for Easter donations for fair). This girl sent a boy a message, which you can do on these things saying she wanted to shoot my dd dead in the head! My dd saw the message as she was sitting next to the person in class that it was sent to, both were surprised.

Didn't know this and in the mean time, this mornning this girl got my dd into trouble - she told head that my DD was not playing nicely with her. The head went to the class room and asked both of them and another girl, who likes my DD but not horrid child to be friends. And asked my DD to smile at horrid girl and be more friendly.

Horrid child now smurking and loving the attention.

I have phoned and arranged to see the head with my DH.

I have just calmed DD1, and will have to get dinner sorted, but any tips for tomorrow would be welcome.

I will keep checking

[WotzsanEgg]

bump

sorry its long

[keeplaughing]

don't have anything really useful to say so will bump. the only thing i can comment on is that some girls go through an extraordinarily nasty phase between about 8 and 11. and if it makes you feel better this girl is obviously a right little manipulative c*w

[WotzsanEgg]

Yes thankyou, keepl - that does make me feel better...

I enjoyed typin "Horrid child now smurking and loving the attention." That about sums it up I guess.

The sad thing is they will both be in same secondary in Sept.

[WotzsanEgg]

thanks cat64 - good idea about keeping some key events and staying calm. The urge to walk back into school when she was telling me was very strong....but I thought I'd better of it.

This has gone beyond my DDS ability to manage this and I now need to show my support in a calm voice and ask what forward approach the school will take.