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To repeat reception or not

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user1498076524 · 21/06/2017 21:25

My DS is just 5 his birthday is in June, he is supposed to be moving up to year 1 this September but his teachers have today met with me and said they do not feel he is ready for it yet.

He can't read or write anything apart from his name and they say he is struggling in basically every aspect of reception. He has seen an educational psychologist but unfortunately she is useless and has taken over 6 weeks to submit her report...and it still hasn't happened. He is also waiting on a speech and language referral as his teachers feel he doesn't have much comprehension of what is being said to him.

He absolutely loves school and has made some really close friends in his year group and I am so reluctant to hold him back a year. I feel that repeating the year would be of absolutely no benefit to him and would just mean that he has an extra year at school which I don't think he will appreciate when he is older. I also feel that the play based way of learning in reception probably isn't helping him and a more structured classroom environment such as year 1 would be a lot better for him, although his teachers disagree. I just really don't know what to do and I need to make a decision by tomorrow so just wondered what other people would do.

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lehatdahat2 · 19/09/2019 21:29

Dear (user1498076524) about to repeat reception or not:
I hope you are still on this mumsnet chat and see my message.
When I saw your text it says you had this problem in 2017.
Dear mum I have this problem now, as teacher advised me and I was worried for my child he was struggling in reception class I decided to keep him in reception for another year.
But he is upset now he says I miss my friends ,he says by the time I will be in year one they will be in year2 that is not fair (it hurts me ,it makes me ask myself did I make a wrong decision?).
I don't know what to do.

Mamabear12 · 23/09/2019 20:18

lehatdahat2 I have been in this position, but more complicated as my son started reception age 3 turning 4. We repeated the year so he would be age 4 turning 5 in October, and he was absolutely fine. However; we explained our reasons and he understood he would make many new friends and still see the old ones at recess. Thankfully he never looked back and he is thriving, now moved to year 1. Never missed his old class. They move in fast. It’s just one year! Make play dates w new friends. He will move in fast if you help him focus on positive and new friendships.

lehatdahat2 · 23/09/2019 22:19

Thank you Mamabear12 for sharing your child's case with me. I try my best to support him and explain for him the reason he is sitting in reception class again . As he has born extremely premature at 24 weeks he is a miracle child fighted so much to survive.
I saw him in Nersury and Reception class he was continuously saying things are too much for me. That is why I said ok lets give him one year rest to do new things. I am reading books with him playing maths and trying my best to continue learning for him. I really hope that he forget about it and make new friends. I hope he will not blame me when he grows up for holding him back one year.
His main area that needs support is social and emotional development.

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