sensitive ds and name calling

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Ds1 (4) has been in school for a while (start term after 3rd birthday in wales) and has mild asd. He is very attached to me, having ill health hasn't helped as in & out of hospital a lot).
He has struggled with transition from part time to full time and cries daily in class for either missing me or any fall out with other children.
Some have picked up on this and call him "cry baby". Ive spoken with school and they've said its normal but he works himself up so much each night/morning about school.
Looking for suggestions of how to tackle this please

They said name calling is normal? That would ring alarm bells. They should be shutting that down immediately.

It is something they can address in circle time, kindness to others., what makes a good friend.

Firstly, I would see if your child can take something into school to comfort him for when he is apart from you. We have a much older child in our school who brings in a toy that is sprayed with his Mum's perfume.

Secondly, I would ask what the staff are doing to ensure your child isn't being called names by other pupils. Do they have a buddy system or a friend bench to encourage a wider range of friendships?

Name calling is normal in that it's common but that doesn't mean it's okay. The children should be taught to be kind and look after their friends when they're upset, not make fun of them (taught at school and at home).

Seems so young to be in school especially as on spectrum. So bound to be sensitive . Teacher needds to step in .

Hi, Has he been assessed and does he have a formal diagnosis for ASD? I only ask as this sounds very similar to my daughter who imhas Aspergers and is now in year 3. The name calling is a big pain and needs to be sorted but if his anxiety about school is more and issue it becomes a viscous circle. The best thing we did for our little one is getting her to an Ed Physcologist. She still gets picked on a little. I think kids sense the sensitivity and will always go for her now and again BUT she's happy now in who she is and that makes a massive difference!

'It's normal', is not normal. Kids will be kids, but schools these days seem to do well at teaching them to be kind/ zero tolerance on such teasing, etc. When my DS started I was a bit amazed at the list of words they were gently pulled reception kids up on, but things like calling someone 'silly', or 'stupid' were a no-no and 'cry baby' would most definitely be seen as low level bullying. Go back to the school. Honestly it seems really, really weird that they're saying it's okay. It is not okay!

Yes he has been formally diagnosed by community peadritician. He's waiting to see Ed psychologist but appt through yet.
I've spoke to school again today who now claim it's down to his imagination he wouldn't say things unless it happened. He wouldn't know how to lie :/

If you want PM this is typical in my experience! He has has different needs and he needs support. The crying to do with the Aspergers and they could do things to help. You need to go as far as the panel and get a formal diagnoses from an NHS panel. Won't make a massive difference but takes ages so you have to keep on top of it. I've been there so PM if you want.

It is not his imagination it's to do how her perceives things which aren't imagined as it's his perception. You need to stand firmly behind him as you are and push!