Miserable time in reception - anyone had similar?

[dippymare]

Hi, posted once before about my 4 year old refusing to eat dinner at school, this has now improved a bit but she is is now having multiple accidents at school, despite this NEVER happening in preschool. Even the class teacher is fed up with it and lost it with her yesterday. She's very young for the year and not the most confident kid but I hate seeing her so miserable about school. At a loss with how to deal with it, school has started a sticker system and are making her go to the loo every hour. I'm not sure this is such a good idea and it didn't work today anyway. We hardly ever see her smile these days on school days and she counts the days to the weekend. Do we just have to grin and bear it?

Sounds awful for her.

If getting her to go to the toilet every hour isn't working then it sounds as though she is either not ready to toilet train (which is not anyone's fault) or that she wets herself because she is distressed.

Is she miserable at school because of this ? Or could this be a reaction to how unhappy she is there ? Either way I don't think the school are helping her - more like punishing her for not coping (she's only 4 ).

What would you like to see them do ?

I'm sure that the accidents are down to distress, she was fully toilet trained before school and we didn't get accidents at home or at preschool. I'd like them to take the pressure off her rather than heaping more on her, she needs support rather than additional demands.