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Children guests allowed for the day?

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Mamabear12 · 14/06/2017 20:50

I am curious do you think my DD reception teacher or school would allow her best friend who is visiting to attend the class for one day? She is also french and speaks english as well (DD school is bilingual french and english) so she would fit right in. And she would also know another student in the class. The girl is very easy going and would be happy to do this, no issue with crying in new situations and she would be super happy to be with my DD. When I was younger this was fine in our school. But I feel like its more strict now and wouldn't be allowed. What do you think? I guess I will ask the teacher bc the worst they can say is no! But I won't know unless I ask. I am just wondering if you think it might be possible or a NO WAY!

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soapboxqueen · 14/06/2017 21:08

Highly unlikely as they'd be taking responsibility for a child they don't know. You can always ask but I wouldn't get your hopes up.

AccidentalMagic · 14/06/2017 21:11

We wouldn't allow this at the school where I work.

GreenTulips · 14/06/2017 21:13

It has happened at DD school on several occasions -

I'd ask - they can only say no - there maybe sports day or assessments etc - but a 'guest' may well be welcomed

RTKangaMummy · 14/06/2017 21:27

Are you in Canada?

GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 14/06/2017 21:27

My dd took her foreign cousins to school for a couple of afternoons in Y6. It was a huge success. Of course I had asked the Head first, and the class teacher.

spanieleyes · 14/06/2017 21:39

The difference being the class size regulations in EYFS/KS1. You can "slip" an extra child into KS2 and not break the law, but if the class in Reception already has 30 children, another one would be against the rules ( although I have had a Guest Child when the class was undersubscribed!)

LadyPenelope68 · 14/06/2017 21:41

I'd say absolutely not, why should the teacher "entertain" your guest for the day. Certainly wouldn't happen in the school I teach at.

Edna1969 · 14/06/2017 21:41

DN visited DDs school when she was over from New Zealand and was made welcome. It can't hurt to ask :-)

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Mamabear12 · 14/06/2017 23:17

It's not about the teacher "entertaining " my guest. It's my DD best friend and she would be so proud to bring her to the class. The girl would fit right in coming ng from France and being bilingual, as it's a French school. I might not even ask for the full day, maybe just to come in for an hour.

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catkind · 14/06/2017 23:44

I reckon can't hurt to ask. Some schools are more flexible than others. Could you offer to go in too and be around nominally in charge of the guest child (and help cleaning paintbrushes or whatever while you're there)?

akkakk · 15/06/2017 00:11

happens all over the place with exchange students

GraceGrape · 15/06/2017 00:16

I had an Italian guest of one of my pupils in my class for a week last year. It was KS2 though and had to be approved by the head first. It was a PITA for 5 days but one day would be easier.

soapboxqueen · 15/06/2017 00:19

akkakk exchange students are part of a program and there are procedures. A random child is a different thing.

I honestly wouldn't be happy about it if someone rocked up with another child for the day. I wouldn't know anything about them. Their needs, medical info, anything. If the head decided it was OK, fine, they'd be responsible for anything that went wrong.

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Mamabear12 · 15/06/2017 07:39

It seems some places are more relaxed then others. Growing up in the US it was not a problem at my school. There are under 30 in my DD class. I think 26 kids. So numbers wouldn't be a problem. But I understand what others are saying and I have a feeling school wouldn't be up for it. I wouldn't mind going into the class to help out while the guest is there, as I love participated in my children school activities. I enjoy seeing what they are up to at school. And I'm lucky to have the opportunity to do so, I understand not everyone can. I wonder if sports day would be better thing for her to participate in? Bc parents and siblings are allowed to watch anyway.

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heron98 · 15/06/2017 11:39

I remember my friend's American cousin coming to school with us for a week when I was at primary school, but that was in the 80s

Witchend · 15/06/2017 12:57

I'm just reminded of the Naughty Little Sister story where the mum can't get child care and so sends her to school with her sister. Can you imagine that now?

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Mamabear12 · 15/06/2017 14:11

Witched, what a STRANGE story to be written. This is by no means us trying to get free child care for a day lol. In fact, the little girls mom will be here as well and I have an au pair...so no need of childcare, it was really just because I thought my daughter and her best friend would enjoy the experience. And the girl would fit in perfectly as she is bilingual. Funny how times have changed. In the 80s perhaps early 90s this would not be considered a problem at all. Now it is almost unheard of! I still have not asked the teachers....I know I should just ask, although I feel I know the answer would be a no!

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soapboxqueen · 15/06/2017 14:14

Still ask. Even though I wouldn't be best pleased, doesn't mean others would have a problem with it.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 15/06/2017 14:19

The naughty little sister stories are very very old.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 15/06/2017 14:20

Originally published 1952

Missingthepoint · 15/06/2017 14:23

You might as well ask. You've nothing to lose.

ruru1981 · 15/06/2017 14:27

So are you only wanting to ask because she is from France? If say your niece was stopping with you while your daughter was at school would you still ask the school if she could go?

BubblesBuddy · 15/06/2017 17:20

I suppose she could be signed in as a guest. She seems like something other children would find a bit of a talking point. Can't see it is anything other than babysitting. Who gets anything out of this? A day is not going to teach the child anything and it won't lead to anything.

ajandjjmum · 15/06/2017 17:26

I would have thought it could be quite a nice experience for all of the children, but I suppose the class teacher has got to be happy about it.

I know when my SIL was admitted to hospital as an emergency, my niece attended school with my DC, and the school were great.

DrSpin · 15/06/2017 17:51

You've mentioned frequently that the guest is bilingual and speaking french. I don't get why that's so vital for us to know?

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