DS1 in trouble again ...

[NotQuiteCockney]

Ok, DS1 is 5, in Reception. Enjoying school.

But yesterday, one of his classmates said he was hot. The teacher checked him (I think?) and said he wasn't. DS1 said 'pay her no mind, you are hot'.

Cue trip to the head of pre-prep etc etc.

I just can't bring myself to get that bothered about this. I mean, I realise they need order at school, they can't have him being sarky etc etc.

He does tend to be chatty at home, and will question rules etc, but I don't really see that as a problem ...

How would others feel?

I think it's very funny it is like something off old B&W films "Pay her no mind she is but a woman and is only interested in fluffy kittens and such things"

i think, for me, thats the thing

I do think it wasn't terribly polite, though it was kind of a funny way to do it. (not having a go, he's 5 fgs!

BUT I dunno, I've done a bit of classroom work with this age group, and in this situation would be inclined to ignore it. It just seems to me to send a message that a. the teacher gets easily wound up (which kids do rather like) and b. she won't deal with it herself, she'll send him to the head. I do think it suggests she can't deal with this herself, which is not a good message to send to a rule questioning 5 yo IMO.

Actually even better would have been to turn the chatty comment into some sort of good expression of concern, eg "do you really think so, NQC's DS1? I know, lets see how he feels at break" type thing. This is how the teachers at ds's kindergarten would handle it, I think.

I think they're just cracking down hard on this sort of thing. I do wish he'd argue less - we had an extensive argument this morning about whether there was a book in his school bag. I have no voice, so this was particularly galling.

Cracking down hard on "this sort of thing". What? Having an opinion? He's 5 and while he might not have expressed his concern well he could have been guided by the teacher as to how to do it better, maybe. Your ds was possibly concerned about his friend. I think teacher was a bit ott and Fillyjonks approach would have been much better.

DS1 has a history of not accepting that the teacher is in charge of the class - he always wants her to stop her lesson to explain what is next, and what's after that. So I expect she may have cracked down harder on him, given this? Dunno.

He obviously wasn't traumatised by being sent to the head of preprep, at least.

if you're happy, nqc, thats the main thing

and of course, we don't actually know your ds (most of us, anyway)

for my ds that would have been a rather disproportionate approach-if he said something like that, it would have been out of concern, not cheekiness, I think...this is his way. To be sent to the head for expressing concern would be rather daft imo-surely we want kids to express concern for each other?

I do think this is a rather absurd way to crack down on this, tbh-I think it will be counter productive. I also think, yes, they will behave like this because they are 5 .

I think its a hard situation for you though.