Hi there
Sorry for the long post... I would love some help/ advice.
Our eldest son has very severe allergies and has suffered anaphylaxis to the smallest trace of dairy, as well as being severely allergic to egg and some nuts. He is currently at preschool at one of our closest schools. We chose this as he had a good chance of getting in for reception (despite tiny catchment) and it is very small. When we applied for a school place we applied under a special medical need to keep him where he is. Early symptoms of his allergic reactions tend to be behavioural and so it's vital staff know our son well so they can spot the signs of an allergic reaction. At preschool he attended the class for 6 months before eating there, and since last Autumn he's had school meals (with careful planning and co-ordination between the headteacher, his nursery key worker, the catering team and us). As he is in preschool the staff/ pupil ratio during lunch is high and the lunch staff spent time getting to know our son before he ate (and his keyworker attended lunch for several weeks). The school is small (one form entry) and so we requested he stayed there as it would be infinitely safer for him than moving him to an unknown environment. His consultant paediatrician wrote a letter requesting he remain at the school too, saying it could be detrimental to his emotional and physical state to be moved. The application was rejected and he didn't get in under the distance criteria and he has been offered a place at another school.
We have been to see the other school, which by reputation is very good, but is much much bigger (3 form entry) and having met them I fear he will be at very high risk when he first gets to the school (and possibly for a good many months/ years longer). When our son has had an allergic reaction in the past he tends to get very quiet, before becoming floppy. After lunch all the children go out to a large playground and play (90-180 children) and I fear he could get "lost" if he had an allergic reaction and he wouldn't necessarily know he was having one and wouldn't seek help but would be sit down/ curl up. Furthermore as his allergic reactions don't manifest themselves in the traditional swelling a member of staff may not know our son and may not know he urgently needs his epi-pen/ hospital treatment to save his life.
I want to appeal to keep him at the school he's currently at but know this would take them over the 30 places and so the fight will be huge. Does anyone have any advice? Would be so so grateful.
Thank you!