Why does school do mothers day and not fathers day?

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Does anyone else's school ignore fathers day but goes all out for mothers day?
My 10 year olds daughter mother died 3 years ago, although she hadn't seen her for the previous 4 years.
Every year school make a big thing of mothers day but fathers day is totally ignored. Today the head gave an assembly telling the children how important it was and they're having a stall at lunch time on Wednesday to buy and rap mothers day presents. Obviously my daughter came home really upset by this. I appreciate mothers day is important for most kids but why is fathers day ignored?

I always do Mother's Day with my classes but talk about it in terms of 'people who look after us/ love us' and they make cards for whoever they choose.

My DCs school tackles this very like sleeper describes. It's a smallish primary with one class per year and there are many children who don't have contact with one (or both) parents or who have lost a parent, for an enormous variety of reasons. I love that they are so sensitive about things like this, even if Ofsted rate them as requires improvement.

Teacher here. If we haave a child who doesnt know her mother or her mother has died we would definitely not do mothers day stuff. We usually avoid fathers day as they is always a few absent fathers and the last thing we want to see is an upset child. I would be having words with the teacher.

Have you asked them?!

"Earliest History of Mothers Day
The earliest history of Mothers Day dates back to the ancient annual spring festival the Greeks dedicated to maternal goddesses. The Greeks used the occasion to honor Rhea, wife of Cronus and the mother of many deities of Greek mythology.

Ancient Romans, too, celebrated a spring festival, called Hilaria dedicated to Cybele, a mother goddess. It may be noted that ceremonies in honour of Cybele began some 250 years before Christ was born. The celebration made on the Ides of March by making offerings in the temple of Cybele lasted for three days and included parades, games and masquerades. The celebrations were notorious enough that followers of Cybele were banished from Rome.

Early Christians celebrated a Mother's Day of sorts during the festival on the fourth Sunday of Lent in honor of the Virgin Mary, the Mother of Christ. In England the holiday was expanded to include all mothers. It was then called Mothering Sunday."

So nothing to do with your own mother really

I was told when my DS was in reception , they usually avoid fathers day as it can be complicated. Since Juniors they haven't done anything for either.

When my Ds was at nursery they did bring your fathers to lunch day. I got my DS's day swapped that week as it was going to be too difficult for him at the time.

I think you need to let the school know how it is affecting your DD.

My Ds also did a fathers day thing at cubs. I gave him the choice of not going but he chose to make it for his teacher ( female) it was apparently the first one she had ever received.

In one of my Y6 classes I had a girl whose mother had died a few years earlier. The day after Mothering Sunday she came with a little bunch of daffodils from the service she'd attended and gave them to me. I'm not sentimental, but I was very touched.

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I personally loath mother, father, Valentine's day, Halloween and whichever Hallmark festivity you can think of. I even refuse to acknowledge their existence, let alone do anything at all to celebrate them.
Said that, I have always been puzzled by "mothering Sunday" as I never understood what it meant and where it came from. I am not from the UK, and where I am from it is totally unheard of. There isn't even a translation of the word... (unlike mother's day, that falls in May though). Anyway, a quick search on the internet seems to indicate that it is perhaps a CoE thing that migrated back into Catholic Churches. I might be wrong, but the fact that back home nobody has ever heard of it (and I am from a Catholic country) must mean it is at least not universal.
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Let us not forget the other option fo the 4th Sunday of Lent, Laetare Sunday
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laetare_Sunday
which is VARY VAGUELY more known back home (but NOT much at all...)
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Ours does neither. There are a number of children at the school in LP families - some with just mothers, some with just fathers. Some children are with foster parents. Some children have been bereaved.

The school explain the major festivals and celebrations in all religions so they will touch on the original idea of Mothering Sunday, but there won't be cards/gifts for mothers.

In the North East Mothering Sunday is known as Miserere Sunday

The Sundays of Lent being Tid, Mid, Miserere
Carlin, Palm Paste Egg Day

The rhyme derives from the beginning of the Latin services for those Sundays, the Te Deum, Mi Deus and Miserere mei.

Why don't you ask? Nobody here will know why your school do this, realistically. Most schools do both. Why don't you suggest it?
I have a friend in your position and his son makes things for auntie instead and school manage it very sensitively. He does call and speak to the teacher every year to remind them.
I hope they introduce fathers day at your school too.💐

Mothering Sunday is a day to go back to your 'mother church' originally. For that one day servants tended to return to the family church.

My DS' faith school has a service for careers for it this year. Tbh I really like that. Not all the children live with their mothers and I think a day celebrating all who care for these wonderful children is fab.

In the school where I work, 46% of children do not have a father at home. Which is pretty staggering

Will be better than a dysfunctional relationship though