Moving out of private school for financial reasons - please tell me.it will be OK

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We've been on the waiting list and a place has finally come up for.my year 2 dd in our local primary school.

Dd is currently.at a private school and.seems really happy with friends etc.
I think I'd buried my head I'm the sand and thought we'd never get a place but now.we have we've reassessed our finances and realistically we need to move her.

Ds will be starting in 2018 and unless I go back to work.full time.we simply can't afford two. We're assuming ds will have to go private as we're in a black hole for school places. We haven't been on holiday for 3 years so the private fees hurt!!

Problem is I feel so guilty and i've actually been crying at the thought of moving her. She's really confident etc amd has a really nice.group of.friends. She's.doing OK academically and I'm so.worried about her going into a bigger class.

So I guess my.question is has anyone else done it and if so please tell me it was OK or should i just suck.it up and work.full time to.keep.her there. This obviously impacts on my time.with the children and not what I really want to do. Dh works really long hours (and unfortunately no real flexibility) I work locally so the brunt of running the house organising children aswell as working will fall on me.

I'm having sleepless nights worrying about it!

Move her, but don't so it you can put her brother in private school. Get him into a state primary as well. He will get in somewhere, hopefully with DD via the sibling priority.

They'll be fine based on what you've said. All mine moved school in primary, and they're just fine.

move her this week. Your DS then gets sibling priority and will get a place. Job done. She can still see old friends if she wants to but she will thrive in a great local school. Move asap before the place goes to some one else.... phone them in the morning before it goes to some one else on the waiting list.

I've accepted the place. Luckily dd can finish current school on weds when they break up and then do a week at new school before Christmas.

Phew what a relief!!. We loose a terms fees which is annoying but better than spending 000's going forward.

Thanks for everyones help and comments.

Remember that the last week of term at the new school will be busy and might be hectic for her...she may feel a little bit bewildered as it will be a whirlwind of plays and card giving....but she will get a lot of attention as a new girl.

Big her up and let her know that everyone will want to be her friend because new kids always get a lot of attention.

It will be fine OP. She's young enough that she won't be aware of the difference between private and state, and if both your DD and DS are at the same school it will be much easier. Plus, if it's an outstanding school she's likely to get a good education, even if the classes are a bit bigger.

Just think of what you could do with that extra money every year too! An extra £9000 a year is a couple of holidays, some nice days out, changes to your house, or just some financial security for your family.

I wouldn't work FT just in order to send my DC private unless I had to (bullying, terrible local schools, etc). But you have a great local option, by the sound of it. Your DC will benefit much more from a chilled, happy DM and some nice extras at home than they will from two FT working parents and no holidays or nice treats.

She'll be fine and Xmas last week is lots of fun stuff... your left will be so much less stressful

life sorry