Struggling getting head round dyslexia diagnosis

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My dd is 7. She has always been very able and a 'high flyer' we never pushed her she just loved to learn and did it well. But over the past year she stopped progressing, lost her love of learning and lost a lot of confidence. Nothing made sense it was like everything was grinding to a halt but because she was still achieving to target school didn't see a problem. For various reasons things came to a head over the summer and I got an educational psychologist assessment done which confirmed she is really bright but has significant learning issues - poor processing and working memory which are really affecting her performance and her intrinsic awareness of the disparity in her ability and her performance has really knocked her confidence. School have been great now and taken it all on board and we will do anything we can to help her but I am struggling to get my head round this not being 'fixable' and she will always have to work so much harder to achieve. I know in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter and she is healthy and in my eyes fabulous but it makes me a bit sad as she works so very very hard and is so desperate to do well despite us reassuring her that being happy and just doing her best are the important things. Any parents of dyslexics got any advice ? I feel a bit out of my depth !

I requested that DD1 was assessed in year 2 but was told I was just imagining things ('that parent') as she could read well. I was pretty confident that I was right though and went through a number of strategies with her. Was picked up within 3 months of moving to secondary and she go the 'official' diagnosis. I would say that the hardest years were A levels, where the dyslexia seemed to have the biggest effect. She's now in final year uni and her mental reasoning capabilities now seem to be more important that the skills that the dyslexia affects iywsim?

Interestingly, she waltzed through to grade 5 flute (distinction) on half hour practice a week (and then gave up -sigh).

She also started riding at 5 and is still a keen rider. I believe the balance elements does help some types of dyslexics so some form of sport which relies on this may also help (but only if they love it).

HidingFromDD - my DD started playing the piano which didn't go well but then moved on to the flute and achieved same results as your DD before giving up when she moved to senior school - which was such a shame but she wouldn't take it any further. She too took to it well and it was great to see her shine at something when it was much harder for her in the classroom. She was in the school orchestra and as well as wind band (name always makes me laugh). Are some instruments more dyslexia friendly than others?