Sticker Chart in Reception

[surimum]

Hi my dd started reception in September , in the Parents evening the teacher said she had implemented a sticker chart for each child at the back of the class. This is for when they do something well, good behaviour, etc
My dd has been complaining of and on for weeks about having no stickers and as I work and don't pick her up from school have not really had a chance to see.
Today I mentioned light heartenly to the teacher as she was going in , that she is getting upset about the sticker chart and not having any, her teacher was quite frosty and said all pupils by now have at least a few stickers, anyway to cut this short while she was talking to another parent I had a quick look and was quite shocked my dd is the only one with no stickers in the whole class and all of the others have at least three or more.
At the risk of sounding like a pathetic parent shd I say something to the teacher while I was on the train I felt quite sad, but my dd is very confident bubbly girl but now I am wondering is she badly behaved or just not very good at things would'nt the teacher have said something before now.
Could I just add I have always found her teacher to be quite unfriendly in general but notice she seems very over friendly with other parents but have always put it down to maybe because I am rushing to work in the morning and maybe don't pick up dd the other mums have got to know her better sorry if I am babbling , any advice?

I would mention it again. Tell her that DD is upset as she is the only child with no stickers - say you kniow this is true as you have seen the chart, and ask if there are any speific reasons why she hasn't got any stickers - and if there is anything that needs looking at. I think it is very fair and just to ask for feedback about this.

Surimum, I do have sympathy with you due to a similar problem. DS is in Yr 1 and doesn't have half as many stickers on his chart as many others. I have since found out that the teacher uses it as a bribe for the worst behaved children, so consequently they get them handed out for even moderately good behaviour. At the other end of the scale there are the 'pushier' children who sit at the front with their hand up going 'me me me'. My ds is not in either of these groups so tends to have fewer 'rewards'.

Definitely mention it to the teacher again. These things matter to the children, which is why they have them in the first place. DS2 was the only child with no stickers on the class sticker chart at the Parents Evening last term. I made some jokey remark about it and next time I looked he had 2 stars.

(They matter to the mothers too. My heart bleeds at the thought of my wonderful boy being the only stickerless child in the class.)

(franca express same reservations re sticker charts, esp in reception).
do make an appointment to see the teacher

Bloody sticker charts- should be banned imo. fair enough to use them in some children if behaviour is bad.Makes my blood boil

Thanks for this , as I had mentioned it briefly to the teacher yesterday I had half thought she might have given my dd one yesterday, but no it is still stickerless this morning , so my dd father is going to ask the teacher later as he can get time off work , he is going to ask if there are any concerns with her and a few more general questions about homework.

Obviously I don't want her to be given one if she is mis-behaving in class but I tried to work out from dd what the others get the stickers for and she said they get them if they stay quiet sitting on the mat....and so thats seems quite silly to me but then what do I know about the world of teaching .The other thing that is sort of upsetting is dd was off for 2 weeks having an operation on her eyes and the teacher did not even show an interest or ask how she was or anything when dd returned , it just seems quite sad really particulary when I see her so busy talking with other mums about holidays, dinner etc.

hmm, I'm also not sure about sticker charts that can so easily be compared, if you know what I mean - having them stuck up on the wall....in Ds' reception class they have individual cards which get stamped, then sent home when the card is full......it's more an individual and private thing but the child is being rewarded in some way, just without it being obvious to all and sundry how many stamps they have!

I think it's possible you are reading too much into how the teacher is - there does sound a lack of warmth toward you but as you say, you are usually rushing out the door to get to work so you simply haven't had the opportunity to get to know her like some other mums....and while she may not have welcomed your dd back during the time you were there, she MAY have done something during the day. I'm not defending her on this one though, because after two weeks away I think a warm welcome from your teacher is essential....

But you are doing the right thing to check it; you certainly have the right to know why your dd isn't being rewarded. To be honest if my ds was in that position I would want the teacher to be telling me why....go for it, let us know what happens!

I hate sticker charts,too Pinkbubble.

well things have now gone from bad to worse
dd father went to the class after school asked if he could have a word with the teacher , asked her why dd would not have got a sticker from October 06 to now explained she was mentioning every night at home.
The teacher said dd does tend to be chatty and they get the stickers for being quiet, i.e. sitting in the corner doing silent reading (they can't even read yet so that seems a bit silly) so basically they sit in the corners or on the mat and look at books.
DD dad she was very defensive in her manner almost straight away and did'nt really maintain eye contact , he explained she also had not had any homework sheets since beginning of year , that no sheets were given to try and catch her up for the time she was off for her operation although we had asked for them, and that we were a bit concerned. He said her manner was argumentative straight away and said she had to go to a meeting.
Then she just walked out leaving dd father in the classroom , then her director came in and asked what was going on said the teacher just asked her to go in , said she was sorry and maybe dd teacher is just having a bad day. Then she got a book and wrote down a couple of the concerns and said she would get back to us, she seemed really nice and professional as you would expect, said she knows dd and she's a lovely girl always happy and outgoing which she is . DD father explained she loves school and we were simply concerned so why is she almost trying to argue back like a child herself (something I have found myself).
Now I don't know what to think ,DD is quite young Australian lady and she just does not seems to have any proper people skills to discuss things, any idea's anyone...

surimum, I can't help as much as I'd like, ds has just started reception and not beign english i don't know anything about the system (feel a bit lost myself). However this doesn't sound right, esp considering your dd is only five.... hope someone with a good advise will come along soon...