Would you move a yr 3 for friendship issues?

[lostscot]

I'm at end of tether with my poor ds who's 8 and just don't know what to do for best. He's at the school I work in( I'm ks1 so not directly involved) in a mixed yr 3/4 class and has previously been bullied by another boy who's very subtly controlling all the boys and stopped anyone playing with my son as ds won't be told what to do by him.This child decides who plays with who, what games to play at lunch etc. The head has been very on the ball and has dealt with that bit but my son has been left the outsider and we can't seem to sort it. We had a party for his b'day and invited all the class, small class so can do but since then in 4 weeks 3 of what I've consider his best friends have had parties and left him out. Today he's come home upset just a day back after his so called best friend told him he's not invited to his either.
I know I can't expect school to sort out of school issues but what now? I can't bear him to suffer 3 more years of this but logistically moving him will be awkward due to my hours.

[lostscot]

I think we are very much heading towards a move. Realistically this won't be immediate as means me job hunting too as I won't be able to fit my job around different schools times:-(
I'm can't say a lot else without outing myself but my poor son is completely put off school, has little confidence left and I'm sat here in tears wishing none of us had to go in on morning.

[bojorojo]

If you cannot move immediately you need to put a brave face on and try and keep going. Can he get to clubs or Beavers? Make friends elsewhere? It is so difficult when friendships just don't happen and parents don't see the need to be inclusive. Try and invite other children round, even girls! Your DS won't be helped by seeing your distress so try and put on a cheery face - hard , I know. Best of luck.

[lucylockett27]

Just wanted to say we are in a very similar position and our daughter really does not want to move schools. Our dd's behaviour is now starting to become a problem and she is desperately seeking attention from the group of girls that exclude her. She is only 7 and thinks that these girls are her friends. And if she shows off and acts the class clown they might like her more. Obviously as an adult one realises it will have the opposite effect, but she is not old enough to understand.

I am seriously considering moving her even though she does not want to move. I just feel as the adult I have to make the decision. It so hard though, I know why you feel at the end of your tether. Good luck whatever you decide for the best.