Our DS sounds similar. We eventually found out that he has fine motor problems and hypermobile fingers. He struggles to hold on to the pencil and keep it under control. However he CAN do it if he concentrates enough..... he just hates doing it and will avoid it at all costs!
We got improvement using a Stabilo easy pencil like this and also pencils like this
Our DS really got into these dot-to-dot and there is a series so plenty of practice available. I think it has helped build up his strength and control.
We did the Tedorescu handwriting programme but he tended to rush at it and I'm not convinced it was much help.
My husband has been doing the Speed Up programme and that seems to be yielding better results. Our DS has quite a weak core/arms and the gross motor exercises do seem to be improving his performance on the swirl exercise. I can't say I've seen a lot of difference to the handwriting yet but then again he's not that keen to do it so it's difficult to tell :/
The class teacher put up visual aids in the classroom showing which children were regularly using cursive script and their pictures moved up the chart as they improved. It motivated him massively. You could try doing something similar at home?
Recently I've been recommended the following which I think would fit with our DS' interests and I will be trying shortly:
- Playing "pick up sticks" the traditional game to build up hand strength and control
- Printing mazes off the internet to have him trace between the lines
- Drawing spirals and having him trace between the lines
- Getting him to copy chinese characters or other unrecognisable symbols which haveb't been imbued with a sense of failure!
Our next issue is that although he has improved his script, he has to concentrate so hard on the action of writing that he can't actually compose a story....... if you come across any tips for that I would gladly accept them! Good luck