Phonics - how to start with my 3.5yo ? Pls recommend a book for parents

[ReceptionMum]

Hello all,
would very much appreciate some guidance on the best reading material for parents on how to start working on phonics/pre-reading technics with my 3.5 yo DD. She is quite advanced in math for her age (due to her own will and curiosity rather than us pushing) but I feel that she is a bit behind (compared to her peers that I know) in terms of letter recognition etc.

I myself is not a native speaker so will need some self education on this subject. DH is a reasonably well educated native speaker, however a product of an "old teaching system" so says he "doesn't have a clue what these phonics are about".

Many thanks in advance.

Most three and even four year olds cannot read. The op child is not behind.

Reading opens up a whole new world for a young child. Many chikdren are keen to learn to read at an early age. Being able to read can be a source of great enjoyment.

I taught my son as a pre schooler, but dd as a pre schooler was not interested. Ds got nowhere with learning to read until he was four and half (inspite of me starting when he was three and half) and then it just clicked. Dd started school at 4years and 4 months and learnt quickly once she started school.

Many schools do not consider reading abilities when including children on the gifted and talented list. Teachers are more interested in speech, drawing abilities than phonics knowledge. Dd overtook many of her classmates who could read within the first term if reception.

Op I wouldn't worry!

My dd has recently started reception. We always have read with her, but on starting reception she could write her own name and nothing else. No interest in letters whatsoever. Now she has started she has made very good progress very quickly. I genuinely would leave it for now, and keep with the reading together in an enjoyable way.

I realised that catkind but we shouldn't think there is only one way to pronounce sounds (grass/bath classic example of variation). Parents often know more than they think they do ... Say the word in normal accent and link to how it is written.

Many thanks to all for your answers!

My DD seems to be hooked on Alphablocks now. Keeps on choosing it for her "tablet play time". So far does it mostly incorrectly but started recognising a few letters already. I try to sit next to her and help when she asks. Will leave it like this for the moment.