Teacher shouting, child crying...

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Would you say anything?

DS came out of school crying on Friday. He'd been shouted at for not helping with the tidying up (he says he was) when he started crying the teacher then shouted even more and said to stop this "silliness". He was still upset and quiet all afternoon.

I know the teachers have to keep control but (a) it seems a bit trivial not helping with the tidying (b) shouting so much a child cries seems excessive (he's not generally a crier) (c) he now says he doesn't like the teacher (d) he says other children have cried because the teacher shoots do much.

Would you bother saying anything. He is 7.

If he wasn't tidying up and the teachers told him he should and he still didn't and she raised her voice and then he cried. What should the teacher do then?

It's more that shouting until a child cries seems a bit much

Some children will cry at absolutely anything-it doesn't mean the person who spoke to them was in the wrong.

I agree. But he's not a crier - so it must have been pretty bad. He's adamant he was helping to tidy up.

No intention of going to Ombusman! Just wondered if I should do anything.

You're the expert about your child. Think if over, give it a few days and see if he settles back into school when he sees his friends. This term is always traumatic with changes to timetables and school plays, concerts and other pressures.

My DD is not a crier. However, she was so mortified about being told to 'move her name down' for drawing on the table that she screamed at the teaching assistant until she was sick.

She was in trouble at home in the afternoon (having been sent home for being sick) and not allowed screen time. She also wrote an apology to the TA.

Children react differently at school than at home. Particularly when they are tired.

Go to the teacher and ask her what happened - get her side of the story.
As for the November thing, picture it as during wintery weather when the kids are cooped up inside, restless and doing your head in. It's a Friday afternoon, you're coming down with the cold that's been going round the class, your head is thumping with a headache. One child is in floods of tears because someone pinched her, someone else has spilled paint down themselves, another one is tugging on your wrist. You've asked the class to tidy up because the room looks like a bomb hit it and it's nearly hometime.

One kid refuses (or someone tells you they have). You're stressed and tired and you need them to hurry up and do what they're told, so you snap at them.
It's not the perfect reaction, no, but I can easily see how it happens.

I would say to the teacher something along the lines of 'ds was a bit upset when he came out on Friday, had anything happened?' and see what she says. I can remember being yelled at by a teacher as a child and felt terrified have also seen a teacher scream at a child for some minor incident.

Kids always say they were 'shouted' at when they actually mean they just didn't hear what they wanted to.

Ignore it, let teacher do her job.

I go against the grain here. I would speak to the teacher. Not all guns blazing n with Ofsted complaint form in hand lol but just "DS was really upset on Friday, can u clarify what went on?" .

What do you want to get out of this OP?

Maybe the teacher raised her voice. Maybe she shouted. Maybe she did feel bad about it afterwards.

What in particular do you think speaking to the teacher will achieve though? She already knows your DS was upset.