My daughter is 9 and having some friendship issues at school. Her school mixes the classes every 2 years and this year she is in a class with very few of her old classmates which initially I was happy about as I felt she needed to make new friends. She already knew one of the girls from an out of school activity so she tended to play with her at the beginning of the year but now she is being told by this girl and a few of her friends that she cant play with them anyone. All this week she has had no one to play with - when they mixed the classes they tended to put groups of friends together and although she went into her new class with 2 friends they are 2 girls who are really pally with each other and dont really involve her.
She is extremely social and loves the social side of school- she has never had issues with friendships before mainly because the same group of 8 girls have been together since nursery- they were a few girly squabbles but nothing major. Now to make it worse her 3 really good friends who are in other classes won't let her join in at playtimes.
I am not a parent who goes running to the teacher everytime someone upsets her- I am always telling her she needs to sort things out on her own and in fact I have never had to speak to a teacher about anything as she is so happy go lucky and social things are usually sorted out by her, but she is visibly upset that she is being left out and feels unwanted in her new class. She says she has told her teacher about the fact that no one wants to let her play but her teacher has said she is at school to 'teach' not to sort out friendships. Also one of the boys in her class is having a firework party tonight and all the girls have been invited except her as the majority of girls in the class were in this boys old class. For someone so confident and social she is really struggling socially. Would it be wrong of me to speak the teacher and if so what can she do??