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Am I being precious?

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messystressy · 15/10/2015 19:54

My DS is in year one. He is quite shy, reluctant to speak up while in a group setting. He really tries hard at school abd spends most of his free time going over what he has learnt at school and expanding on it (NOT at my instigation!). They get stars at school for good work or good behaviour. Last year, my DS got one star all year (seemed like most children got 5 plus). The also have Star of the Week. My DS was the only one in the class who never received this. This year, new teacher, I went into the classroom and saw a list of stars. Every child had at least one, except my child. I have never had negative feedback, reports have always been very positive. It is all starting to get to him, which makes me sad. He keeps talking about never getting picked to do anything special. Should I mention it, or will I look like one of "those" parents? I was all for teaching him that he cant always have what he wants, but I also thought year one wpuld be different...

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Tyrannosaurus · 15/10/2015 19:57

Definitely mention it. I think usually teachers try to make sure DC get star of the week in turn, so that everyone gets it sometimes. I've had similar problems with DS coming home crying, and telling me he's going to stop being good as he never gets star of the week. I mentioned it to the teacher, and by huge co-incidence he got it the next week. Grin

Smartiepants79 · 15/10/2015 20:00

Are you not due a parents evening soon?
If so i would bring it up. Not about how it bothers you but how it's starting to bother him.
Ask them to explain WHY he's the only one without? If he's well behaved and trying his best he should have been rewarded for that.
It's very poor form that he went all year with no special recognition.
Make it about him but make it clear.
I'm a teacher and I never understand how this happens. Especially if the chart is on the wall! Surely you can see and think 'ooh, I need to watch out for him being good over the next day or so'
I would also be mortified if such a small child was being made to feel like this because I wasn't keeping track!

RoganJosh · 15/10/2015 20:07

So in reception all the other children got star of the week except him? When he was 4? That's appalling. Poor child.
I would definitely say something this year if it looks like it's going the same way.

messystressy · 15/10/2015 20:14

Ohhh, thanks for your posts, I was really torn over doing something/not doing something. Yes, I too was staring at this chart and wondering how he could be missed - the only child with a gap after his name! Last year was horrible, every week he was hopeful to get Star of the Week, the last week of school he was so excited - "it HAS to mine turn this week!". Nope - but a great report card. I will def chat to his teacher, thanks for confirminh that it is a legitimate topic! Smile

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