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Positive stories about focus and concentration

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Hocusfocus · 07/10/2015 11:11

Feeling a bit shaky after YR3 son's parent's evening - I had thought his focus had improved (but according to his teacher he is still gazing round the room).

Didn't really sleep last night - can anyone share any stories of how this has improved with time with their children. It might help me as I am struggling to see the light in this tunnel at the moment.

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Millymollymama · 07/10/2015 14:01

Just some questions. I have no particular experience.

What is the teacher doing to make sure he gets on with his work? Is there a TA in the classroom to chivvy him along? Is he being set work he can do? Is it too hard so he avoids doing it? Is the teacher inspiring him? What strategies has she put in place to help him concentrate? In general, is he an enthusiastic child? Does he like school? Can the teacher reward him for finishing his work in a certain time? What motivates him to stick with something and complete a task? Can you work on this at home?

Just a few thoughts.

SimLondon · 07/10/2015 14:41

Is there more to this? has the teacher said that he is under-achieving academically?

I spent all my time daydreaming as a kid, I snapped out of it at school to a certain extent at age 9 because the teacher wouldn't let me be day-dreaming.

orangepudding · 07/10/2015 14:49

Has the teacher made any suggestion? Did his tthing a her suggest it needed investigating?

Feckinlego · 07/10/2015 14:55

I'd be interested in replies to this. My ds is the same. He's 8. Although there's a slight improvement this year as the teacher sends work home for completion. His work as a result has got very sloppy from rushing.

WildStallions · 07/10/2015 15:05

First things to try are cutting out all artificial sweeteners and taking a very high quality omega supplement.

steppemum · 07/10/2015 15:12

omega oil is proved to be nonsense.

WildStallions · 07/10/2015 15:20

Which studies are you referring to?

There have been hundreds of studies. All giving different results. All testing different supplements and doses and measuring different outcomes.

It helping has been neither proved nor disproved.

The only way you'll know if it helps your DC is to try it.

Certainly more chance of it helping if you actually take it.

Hocusfocus · 07/10/2015 15:29

He loves school and is enthusiastic to learn and contributes in lessons. However, when he has to put pencil to paper, he will drift off after writing a few lines.

His teacher thinks that he is in danger of not meeting his potential and the year being wasted if he doesn't focus. The teacher talked about getting a TA to keep him focused

The teacher thinks that he is bright & this is affecting his progress. Has anyone seen this type of issue and it improve with age & time? Any other suggestions as to what I can do?

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Mytholmroyd · 07/10/2015 16:31

Hocusfocus I am sure he will be fine - he will get there in his own time - our primary/secondary education system is not very good at dealing with non-conformists! I hesitate to recommend this as it is the most viewed TED talk ever but if you haven't heard it read/listen to Ken Robinson for some uplifting positive stories!

I have one - bit long sorry - DD3 was very immature academically and not ready for formal schooling until she was about ten. She would only do her schoolwork if a teacher sat with her - she would rather wander around the class telling the other children what to do. If we or they put pressure on her to knuckle down and work she would just cry - she spent whole days in tears - and was known at school as the crybaby - she even got a Christmas card one year addressed to the crybaby Sad.

Homework was a nightmare - it would take us 4 or 5 hours to get her to complete a single worksheet and in the end I just told the school we were not doing it anymore because it was so disruptive, negative and upsetting for us all. It got to the stage that I really didn't care if she was bottom of the class if trying to do well academically was going to cause so much distress. She didn't read until she was 8 and they put her in a room on her own with a teacher to do her KS2 SATS (which she actually rather enjoyed - she likes an audience!).

The school tested her for everything going but it just seemed to be a lack of interest and concentration. The thing was she was/is very articulate and opinionated with a huge vocabularly and could talk your ear off - if she could have done her work orally she would have been fine. I took her to join a choir when she was 7 because she loved to sing (we joke that she came out of the womb singing and hasn't stopped since!) and that gave her some reason to learn to read and concentrate.

She is in her first year of GCSEs now and is absolutely flying doing subjects she loves. I do not have to hassle her to do her homework and she got subject prizes the last two years and regular commendations. She really has a lot of creative talent - no idea where from - I have zilch. All the teachers love her because she is so interactive and enthusiastic if still rather opinionated and they are very good at accepting some rather 'imaginative' homework instead of standard written work! She is never going to be academic like me but as far as I am concerned as long as she passes English and Maths with a C that will do. Her love is art, crafts, textiles but particularly drama and music which she is just a natural at and her voice has been described as 'special and magical'. She is getting asked to sing regularly now and she mentors younger children at the local youth theatre. She is just brimming with ideas and joy and fun. I cannot deny it is a relief as 5 years ago we were very worried indeed.

To be honest, I think all the talk about reaching potential in primary is rubbish and puts far too much pressure on parents and children (and teachers TBH). Education is not a race that you loose if you fall behind at some stage because you don't get the grades you want/need the first time you try. I have seen students 'not reach their potential' until they are doing a degree or even a PhD and suddenly blossom as they 'get it'. I have also seen undergraduates fall to pieces because bereft of parental and teacher helicoptering they just cannot cope. IMHE the best thing you can do for him is to help him find his own way by letting him fail, supporting him when he does and giving him opportunities to learn for himself, try new things and become an independent confident learner.

Hocusfocus · 07/10/2015 16:53

Thank you Mytholmroyd. It is good to hear your daughter has found her niche

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Pikachoomumma · 07/10/2015 21:16

OP, your DC is still young, lots can change! Is the problem concentrating only present when being asked to write, or is it occur in other situations? Best wishes!

Ferguson · 07/10/2015 21:48

I was a primary TA/helper for over twenty years. Some intelligent, imaginative children can sometimes seem not to focus, or not keep on task, because their minds wander into other realms that have nothing to do with the real subject the teacher is presenting.

Or they may just be lazy and not making much effort, because the subject does not interest them, or is too hard/too easy for them, or the aims haven't been explained in a meaningful way.

When 'writing' is a major hurdle, I used to get Yr2 boys to DICTATE their story or text to me, and I would type it on the computer; they enjoyed seeing their ideas appear on the screen, and could produce much better ideas than when they had the 'chore' of handwriting things.

So if you have a tape recorder, or a phone that can record, let him record his ideas; he can review and amend things later if necessary, and eventually hand-write or type the final draft.

user789653241 · 07/10/2015 22:21

hi Hocusfocus!

My ds is in yr3 and had same comment from his teacher! Well, he had same comment from past teachers as well.

I stopped worrying about it too much, although still sometimes I have to remind him to focus on something(normally food...who can forget about eating without watching TV or something?).

He has strong concentration on something he loves, and daydreams when he isn't interested. I tried so hard to make him understand, but I can't do anything about what's happening at school. As long as teachers are aware, I'm sure they will keep reminding him.

My sister was exactly the same when she was in primary. I think she changed when she was in secondary.
Let's hope that's the case!

Hocusfocus · 09/10/2015 09:42

It is particularly when being asked to write - but also can happen for example when in games (not listening to what the games teacher is telling them). Hoping that this will improve with age!!

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Mytholmroyd · 09/10/2015 16:10

Ferguson that is a fantastic idea - it's great to have teachers like you in school!

My DD took in a necklace with seven pendants each representing one day of the creation that she had made as her project homework instead of a piece of writing Shock (I didn't know and would have been horrified if I had!).

It could have gone terribly wrong but the teacher to her eternal credit wore it the whole lesson and said it was the best homework she had ever received. I could have kissed her!

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