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DD moved primary school - not settling and possible bullying. Help?

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Cheesybaps · 28/09/2015 16:42

DD is in year 3 and moved to a more local primary last week.

For a couple of days she seemed fine, however I noticed a few little signs that she wasn't happy and pressed her further on Friday evening. She says an older boy has been bullying her at breaktime, will not stop chasing her and calling her names. She says he called her a fucking bitch. Sad

I called the school today and spoke to them about it, to be fair they have dealt with it and DD says he hasn't really done anything today.
She is still upset though... a couple of boys in her class told her today that they want her to leave. She asked the rest of her table if they wanted her to leave too, they all said yes bar one girl. One of the girls who said yes DD considered a new friend. Sad

I just don't know what to do. It breaks my heart that she is unhappy. She loved her old school and had some good friends there, although she didn't really see them outside of school because of the distance.
I had hoped moving her to somewhere local would mean that she would have more chance of social interaction, she could ride her bike to school and have playdates etc. It also has a better OFSTED rating.

What do I do? I've raised the issues with the school and they are engaging but is there anything I can do other than that? Has anyone experienced similar? Do we just ride this out and hope she settles soon and it's just teething problems?

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 28/09/2015 18:12

Ask her to choose a friend to invite for tea, just one, and keep doing this with different kids over the next few weeks. Boys this age are horrid creatures and are mean, they probably didnt mean it. Speak to her teacher they can keep an eye on it.

Cheesybaps · 28/09/2015 18:35

That's a great idea, thank you! I will definitely do that. Hoping desperately that it will all calm down!

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MMmomKK · 28/09/2015 21:11

Another vote here for play dates. Dd1 moved schools last year while in Y3. And she is a bit shy. So - we did a lot of play dates for the first term. Once kids get along one-on-one, playtime at school becomes less lonely - familiar faces help!

Also - I put more effort than usual into the early play dates. I wanted to get the kids to want to be friends with Dd and to want to be invited again. So - I got them little souvenirs, made forts, let them play with make-up, gave em t-shirts to decorate, made pizza with them, had great desert choices, etc.

Good luck!

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