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Sex education

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ToffeeCrisp40 · 19/09/2015 00:59

Got letter from school asking can my child be taught sex education. To know bodily parts. . Where and how babies are made. Ffs he only turned four in June. Can't read or write. Has no idea but they'd rather teach him about sex than the toddler basics. . I am so so so so fucking angry. Am thinking of removing him to the RC school where he belongs. Who the fuck regardless of status or religion teaches a toddler
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RiaOverTheRainbow · 19/09/2015 05:14

You're angry your ds is going to learn the names of parts of his own body?

wickedlazy · 19/09/2015 05:58

I think it's basic biology, and as long as it's not graphic then it's better kids know than don't. Usually good talks now in schools about inappropriate touch too, which I think is a step in the right direction.

LindyHemming · 19/09/2015 06:03

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HarveySchlumpfenburger · 19/09/2015 07:29

I don't want to disappoint you, but the sex ed in our local RC and presumably across our diocese isn't massively different to the policy I've seen in any other primary. Especially in the early years.

1 or 2 obvious differences, but in terms of naming parts of the body and knowing where babies come from it's fairly similar.

BertrandRussell · 19/09/2015 07:32

Why not find out a bit more before you lose your temper?

They'll do exactly the same at the RC school, by the way.

addictedtosugar · 19/09/2015 07:46

Well, they are asking, so presumably there is an opt out?

Personally, I think the earlier things like this are broached, the less embarrassing it is for all.
Proper names for body parts, I have no problems with.
My 6 yr old has been asking questions for about a year, and his little brother, then 3, now 4 and just started school, has been listening, and obviously has taken some of it in. They know they grew in my tummy, I pushed them out (Ds2 on the bathroom floor at home with the paramedics helping) and that they are part mummy and part daddy. Know my breasts made mik for them to eat when they were babies before they could eat food. DS1 has asked why his willy grows sometimes, and I've said when he is grown up, his penis needs to get hard to make babies. Penis / willy used interchangeably as are balls and testicales.

I think it's great, if you disagree, opt out of those classes.

Savagebeauty · 19/09/2015 07:56

They are not "teaching him about sex".
Get your facts right.
You sound irrationally angry.

Lurkedforever1 · 19/09/2015 10:13

Get a grip. Unless your primary has introduced it's own syllabus they're hardly going to be teaching them about contraception, oral sex and colouring in pictures from the Kama sutra. Why not actually find out exactly what they're teaching before hiking up your prude pants and removing him from the school. You do know Catholics also have the same reproductive system and body parts as everyone else?

TeenAndTween · 19/09/2015 10:24

You do need to calm down.

Ask the school what they will actually be covering.
If it is yR/y1 it will be simple and mild.

By being able to name body parts for example, it gives children the words to talk about sex abuse for example. It will cover things like the parts covered by your underwear are private and no one should touch them.

Where babies come from is going to be more like 'Man and Woman do a special cuddle' (as opposed to being brought by the Stork) not full on details.

WombatStewForTea · 19/09/2015 11:34

Calm down! At his age it will be naming body parts and the difference between boys and girls. Not sex. Why wouldn't you want him to know those things?

Wellthen · 19/09/2015 11:44

So withdraw him.

gallicgirl · 19/09/2015 11:46

One of the important things they learn is consent and not just in sexual terms, I hear.

Think that would have been a useful lesson in the Catholic church.

HamaTime · 19/09/2015 12:12

What do you think will happen if he learns body parts?

(Is this a good time to mention that my 6yo Catholic dd shouted out 'Mummy my clitoris is tickling' on a rollercoaster'?)

Put him in the RC school if you like, but you'll find we aren't squeamish.

ProggyMat · 19/09/2015 16:41

Wink- I hear ya, HamaTime Star

Ta1kinPeace · 19/09/2015 18:40

OP
Would you rather your child did not know which areas of his body are private?
That they have names?
That they have reasons to be there?
That if your child feels uncomfortable around any adult they should say so?
That tingling in those areas is natural and not a sign of disease?

FFS
The Catholic Church is still locking up the people who caused the change in school sex ed.
Give your child the chance to learn to look after himself.

tabitha8 · 20/09/2015 15:26

DS is in year 2 and hasn't done anything like this at school yet. I don't have a problem with that. Surely it doesn't have to be covered in Reception?

LindyHemming · 20/09/2015 18:33

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saltlakecity · 22/09/2015 18:55

Fgs. Are you for real OP? Get an absolute grip of yourself. This will be done in a completely age appropriate way. You are irrational.

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