New teacher and child wrong for each other

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Have you ever dealt with a situation where you and/or your DC knew straight away that their new teacher would be wrong for them? E.g. Because of personality of child and the teaching or discipline style of the teacher?

If so, what happened? Did you do anything?

I can't give details of my situation but it would be helpful to hear experiences.

Teachers are professionals. They should be able to work with all students.

The significant word in that statement is "should."

I don't think that teachers should be able to work with all pupils at all, that's what expulsion is for.

I know you say your child has a professional diagnosis of 'anxiety' BUT it is in your child's best interests to learn from these situations and deal with people, places and events that cause the anxiety or make it worse.
You nor your child can run away for the rest of your lives from situations that cause anxiety. The world will not change to adapt to 'you' or your child - harsh as it sounds, but that is the reality.
The first thing you should do is to make an appointment with the head teache and voice your concerns. If you say your chid has been diagnosed with anxiety, the school should adapt their approach in the best way that they can. But remember, a school may be unable for various reasons to adapt in a way that you see fit. It is about compromise. Whatever your reason is for 'disliking' the teacher, your child may pick up on your concerns and this can make things worse.
It is difficult to give advice due to the secrecy surrounding your child, the school and the issues.

See masking I see that the other way round. Diagnosis of anxiety? It's in the teacher's interests to work with parents and child to achieve success.
OP I guess you can't say too much but is there anything in particular that worries you?

My child had a teacher for the last few months of year 4, and it was hell! She disliked my dd to the point where I would class it as bullying, it worked out that she also got her in year 5 but the moment I found out I went into school and demanded my dd be moved to the other yr 5 class, since moving she has done brilliantly, ( refused school before) I have told the head that I will not have that teacher teach any of my children, ( 4 in the school) we just found out which teachers they have for sept and none of them have her so I'm happy, ( not sure if the head has done this deliberately or it's just a coincidence)luckily all the other teachers in the school are fine but this one, in my opinion should not be working with children!

I've got a very similar dilema. DS2 had a disasterous year under a paricular teacher last year. He went from being a bright happy child with reports year on year of being a pleasure to teach to a child labeled as not very bright, unable to do sport (hes very sporty) on an IEP at my insistance because this teacher complained he was so far behind. He became fearful of using the school toilets because she accused him of messing around and taking too long - this led to wetting instances on the way home because he was bursting to go and too scared at school. He spent many many breaks in under punishment because he didn't understand her instructions and she refused to repeat.

We nearly moved schools then he has had the loveliest teacher this year. Shes had a wonderful balance of respect and authority with praise and reward. He's flourished. He's in the able maths group going to county events and representing the school for football, rugby and cross country. He's still got lots of anxiety behaviours that he developed last year he frays te end of his school jumper by rubing it nervously and he still is scared of using the school toilet incase he's told off.

Imagine my delight when today I heard he's got last years teacher again next year!

My plan of action is to give the school a chance to discuss this by having a meeting with the head teacher. Next year is a job share teacher so I'm playing around with the idea of partially home educating if that is feasible.

MisFor just because it is job share doesn't mean it will be bad. I saw a thread somewhere else and nearly all instances were positive ones. DD had some job share teachers in Y2 and flourished, the variety of teacher meant each brought their strengths to the role and DD had a great experience that year.

when you say "professionally diagnosed" - diagnosed by whom? Hopefully not some random ed psych, or similar.

You child needs to just get on with it. nothing could be more damaging than teaching them that people are required to pussy foot around them walking on egg shells, and they won't ever have to tolerate a person or situation they are uncomfortable with.

Notcontent, I imagine that you are finding some of these comments less than helpful! which is to be completely expected when you (rightly) have given so little personal information.

My advice, as a teacher, would be to contact the Head and/or SENCO (depending on which you think would work) , with a view to a meeting with them and the class teacher for strategies to make this work. Obviously, to do this you would need to make it as least like a personal attack as you can. In my view, this is a SEN issue that needs to be addressed by the school and you working in partnership.

Your only other choice would be to move schools. however, although you would be picking a school specifically on the style and persona of the teacher this year, what about next year? A new school would need to be one that recognises your child's needs and worked with you long term to build strategies for resilience.

I hope this helps, as I said at the start! it's difficult to judge from the (lack of) detail you have given.

And good luck

None of the classes at DC school get a teacher a second time. Which is one advantage of a big school. But also a downside as his teacher this year was amazing.