Hi Charlotte I thought I'd respond to you via Finola's interesting post:
Finola1 wrote:
The key things to remember:
- Some parents will be old hands, some will be newbies. Get to know who is which very quickly.
if you don't want us to judge you please do try not to judge us -
there will be some new parents that are great and others who aren't - there will be some longstanding parents with many children who remember when Mrs X (now retired) taught in such a such way and hanker for those good old days - and others that like your new approach.
- Newbie parents may expect more "feedback" from you on a daily basis as this may be what they are.used to at day nursery / pre school. Don't fall into this. Check with more experienced teachers what the school would expect. If you give a full 5 minutes feedback to Johnnie's mum on Day 1, it will be expected and others will expect it too!
just to say as a parent having had 4 years of a nursery telling me whether DDs had a good day or not - it doesn't have to take forever and most parents will just collect their kids and go once those initially worrying first weeks are past. It doesn't hurt to tell a worried Mum or Dad that their DC had a really good day and seems to be settling in nicely. Sure you can't tell all 30 - but you can recognise worry and you can try and be human. I've seen too many new parents leave school grounds crying because they've been scolded by a teacher for asking how was their child's first day and lectured about how they have to respect that teacher's work life balance. Perhaps teachers should respect that the first day at school is a big deal to many newbies
- Be professional at all times. Do not send out any information about yourself. This type of thing would usually come via the school management, office or website.
See #2 - but don't talk about something delicate in the playground - have a bit of respect folks
- Never give out your personal email. Do not accept Facebook friends requests from parents. Schools have very strict policies about internet safety for yourself as well as the children.
How about just don't have a facebook page - I don't need to see cavorting and certainly don't need to get some weird twitter link to the fact you were out drinking whilst away with my kids for PGL week
- Be friendly, cheerful, polite and firm. Boundaries are very important for all. Parents want to know that there child is safe and happy with you. Be approachable and listen to concerns raised. Follow school procedures for handling complaints, bullying etc at all times.
I agree with this but would particularly reiterate you have to help settle in parents especially in those first weeks. We won't know the systems or what to expect and we aren't psychic - try and build a routine - our YR teacher for DD2 used to put out a little chalk board at pick up times with notes about what to bring the next day - but forgot that a few kids went to kids club because parents worked. Eventually she twigged we weren't getting the messages and sent notes with the 2/3 after school club kids - post-its work a treat
- Be confident. You got this job on your own merits. You may be an nqt, but that does not come into your relationship with the children or parents. You are the teacher, end of.
I'd say the YR kids will have no idea you're an NQT (they won't know the TA is not a teacher) - be aware they will become very attached to you. [If you are moved to teaching other years in KS1 - be aware that kids can pine for their old teacher for a few weeks] Try not to have favourites and try to see something great about all 30-32 of your kids - Personally as a parent I've always found NQTs streets ahead of the 'old lags' at the school. They're enthusiastic, hard working, up to date, ambitious and computer/ smart phone/ e-mail savvy! It's greatly appreciated
- Some parents will love you, some not bothered, some will dislike you. This will happen every year. See point 6.
This is life - in whatever field regardless of point 6
- Enjoy your time in the class, have fun. Reception parents IME are happy if their children to be happy to come to school, make some friends, learn to read and join in. Everything else is the cherry on the top.
I'd add learning to count and I'd also add that I was far happier with YR (NQT) teacher for DD2 who actually sent home information about phonics and key words and explained how that would roll it out and what she'd like us to do to help each week.
I think the only thing I'd add is that accidents happen in school and wetting yourself or being ill can be mortifying - have a spare PE kit available for an emergency and try and move swiftly back to normal procedure
One thing that was lovely about old hand YR teacher is she used to bring a spare collapsible umbrella on field trips because someone was bound to forget their rain coat - she was also a dab hand at making panchos out of bin liners
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To be honest - if you're trying your best and are reasonably approachable parents will pick up on that. Our children are too little to explain or articulate their relationship with you or their classmates, so do bear that in mind if a parent does ask you about something - often we've had a garbled account or an upset child at home and are just trying to work out what's going on