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Grandparent nativity dilemma

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julienetmum · 15/11/2006 10:49

Dd came home yesterday with 4 tickets for her nativity play, 2 for the afternoon, 2 for the evening. This is based on the capacity of the hall. They are using the Senior School hall and it is pre-prep (infants) only so they have obviously tried to accomodate as many as possible.

The problem I have is dd has 2 sets of grandparents who she is very close to, how on earth do I chose who goes to see the play? I can get a babysitter for ds unless he would have to take up one of the afternoon tickets too.

I am going to offend someone arn't I? My mum has offered not to go, but I can tell she is upset about missing it, just trying not to show it.

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LadyMuck · 15/11/2006 10:51

Just say that you have one spare ticket for each set?

indignatio · 15/11/2006 11:07

contact the school with the dilema - they may have two spare (for just such emergencies). I had the same type of thing with being admitted - only two tickets but I had one dh and two parents - they were fine about an extra ticket.

KTeepee · 15/11/2006 11:07

Can you ask the other parents that if they don't need all their tickets, could you have them? Both sets of grandparents in my family live abroad so would not be coming, no other family live nearby so we would never need four tickets - in fact often it is just me if dh can't get off work...I'm sure there are other people in your school in a similar situation who would be glad to give you their spares...

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julienetmum · 15/11/2006 11:24

I did think of asking the mum of twins (4 tickets per child) if she needs all of hers but felt a bit cheeky. I have a feeling that dd's best friend has grandparents who live out of the area too, she's going round for tea on Thursday, maybe I'll ask.

I did think though that I will not be the only one with this dilemma.

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FIMBO · 15/11/2006 11:29

All of my dc's grandparents live miles away from us. I would have happily given spare tickets to anyone needing them. I think you should just ask around.If not couldn't your dh/dp go with his mum and you go to one performance with your mum, if you can't get any spares. That way it also solves your babysitting problem.

WigWamBam · 15/11/2006 11:32

No such dilemma at dd's school ... only two tickets are issued per child, so no grandparents get invited (MIL expected me to give my ticket to her last year, but that's another story).

Why not ask the school office if anyone has returned any of their tickets? Or ask around to see if anyone has a couple of spares? They can only say "no", and you won't be any worse off than you are now.

LadyMuck · 15/11/2006 18:33

WWB - what do they do about families who have split up etc? Mind you I guess if it is 2 tickets per child then there are plenty of 2 child families with extra tickets.

nikkie · 15/11/2006 22:00

We only get 2 and all are in the day .

amicissima · 15/11/2006 22:19

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TheHighwayCod · 15/11/2006 22:24

god i bet they dont REALLY want to go
how dull nativities are

TheHighwayCod · 15/11/2006 22:24

ask them " do you really want to go i wont be offended" and watch them run

Tommy · 15/11/2006 22:29

nearly had this with DS1 - they were only going to give 2 tickets per child as they having loads of building work done at school and can't use the hall but they're now going to use the church instead.

I was planning just not to tell my MIL about the possibility of going at all

TheHighwayCod · 15/11/2006 22:30

at orus all the infants take aprt but receptiona re key roles
so i had to do £ years wiht each kid
Ill start goin in 2002 adn finish in 2010.. WTF

oht eh other GOOD hting abotu our fab shcool is that htey use the same cotuems every year HOORAY

nikkie · 15/11/2006 22:41

I love nativities! am I strange?

fussymummy · 15/11/2006 23:33

I love going to all the school plays that my kids are in.

We video them all as well.

Great to look back on, kids love watching themselves.

Our school usually offers 2 tickets per child and then any spare tickets are on a first come first served.

Just ask in the school office.

Could you record it and give a copy to the grandparents?

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julienetmum · 15/11/2006 23:38

Oh they DO want to go, I assure you. My Dad is absolutely gutted that he was really ill on the day of her Stagecoach presentation. So ill in fact my Mum had to stay home with him as she did not dare leave him

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Tortington · 15/11/2006 23:38

the women get to go - the grandpas really must come second in this situation

btw i missed a nativity ONCE EVER becuase i had to work

and now they are teenagers suddenly i got " you never came to out plays" cheeky gits

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julienetmum · 15/11/2006 23:39

Anyway Whoops a Daisy which is what they are doing isn't dull, it's quite a sweet little play.

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nearlythree · 15/11/2006 23:42

Ask both grandmas? i.e. one from each side of the family?

nearlythree · 15/11/2006 23:43

Oh. Just seen that won't work.

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julienetmum · 15/11/2006 23:45

I think grandad on dh's side is out of the equation due to work so I think it will have to be my Dad and dh's mum. My mum will be disapointed but not half so much as my Dad

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eemie · 15/11/2006 23:54

Just showed Cod's amazing post to my dh and he said she's probably got a 'sticky keyboard'.

Little does he know our Cod

sahmtotwo · 16/11/2006 00:06

My DS's school has introduced an afternoon performance just for the grandparents this year. Which is perfect as the parents would refuse to miss a nativity of their most beloved grandson, no way. They have to go to everything he does.

nikkie · 16/11/2006 00:16

You know you're here too much when you don't see anything wrong with Cods posts