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Y1 Teacher wants to do a home visit

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Samandsummermum · 17/04/2015 16:31

Hi my sons a y1 and his teacher asked us today if he could come and visit him next week as a "special treat" if he's a good boy next week.

Has anyone else been visited at home by their child's teacher? It seems unusual to us.

Any info would be appreciated.

Thanks a lot

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Seeline · 17/04/2015 16:34

We had home visits in Reception as part of the induction process, but not further up the school. Are you new to the school?

janx · 17/04/2015 16:35

I can't imagine my ds would think that was a treat! Teachers are for for school life not home life.

IssyStark · 17/04/2015 16:35

Likewise here home visits are the norm when you start school. Don't know how common they are if you aren't a recent starter.

overmydeadbody · 17/04/2015 16:36

"if he's a good boy next week"

Does that mean he struggles to behave properly in class most weeks and the teacher is looking for incentives for him?

Not usual to have home visits in year 1 no, unless you are new to the school?

Vicarscat · 17/04/2015 16:37

Could his teacher have concerns about his home life? I would ensure the house is clean and tidy, everyone looking respectable and behaving nicely, etc.

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Samandsummermum · 17/04/2015 17:40

Thanks everyone, he struggles to sit still in class and pay attention, and has had a couple of incidents of playing roughly with other kids at break times, however he's not the only one that's been in trouble this week.

We were worried that they had concerns about him, however can't see why he's always smart and well fed but not fat, does out of school clubs etc. so yes we'd already thought we'd make sure all looking good.

Gonna speak to headteacher and find out what's going on as we've had issues already with this teacher.

Thank you everyone x

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fairgame · 17/04/2015 17:42

Yes it happened to me when DS was in reception and had extremely challenging behaviour. It was a guise to come and snoop at our home life. DS was later diagnosed with ASD but at the time he was just 'naughty' and of course it was all my fault

DinkyDye · 17/04/2015 17:54

I'd be saying no and as previously said teacher's are for school.

We had home visit for nursery attached to school so l will be refusing a reception class one if they ask.

mrz · 17/04/2015 18:05

As a teacher I've never heard of such a thing. To be honest it sounds very odd for a teacher to suggest it as a treat.

Home visits for new starters is a very different situation, they are about meeting the child one to one in a familiar place where the child feels comfortable and for parents to provide any relevant information about the child that they feel is important. They are meant to be "non threatening" as some parents don't have positive memories of schools.

mrz · 17/04/2015 18:07

As a teacher I would also say no if my child's teacher made such a suggestion!

soapboxqueen · 17/04/2015 20:16

Another teacher here and I think it sounds odd. I'd say no.

What the hell sort of a treat is that? Give me maltesers any day.

ItsAllKickingOffPru · 17/04/2015 20:20

I would say no and see the HT for the reasoning behind it.

KaputKiss · 17/04/2015 20:28

I would say no too. What did you say when the teacher asked you?

PlaydohInTheCarpet · 17/04/2015 20:34

It sounds like a snooping visit tbh.

I would say no, but then, we don't get along with ds school at all!

zen1 · 17/04/2015 20:42

Sounds strange to me. I would be declining the offer and having a chat with the head. Has the teacher visited other children at home?

Marcipex · 17/04/2015 20:42

We have them pre-reception, for four year olds, though it's optional.
I've never heard of it as a treat.
I'd say it's a snooping visit too.

Top top: take the sweets out of the fruit bowl and put fruit in it instead.

QuiteQuietly · 17/04/2015 20:53

Dodge it if you can. If you can't - hide the glass recycling in your car boot (memories of dreadful HV visit of doom with at least a years-worth of glass bottles piled by the back door).

Suggest a more treaty treat and if they want a chat, arrange to meet them at school at a time when you can come without DS (and with DH/DP or other moral support).

slippermaiden · 17/04/2015 21:08

If my sons teacher said this is put the kettle on and make a chocolate cake. She's a lovely lady! But she hasn't suggested this, it is a weird thing. I'd talk to the head teacher!

MagpieCursedTea · 17/04/2015 21:12

What were your issues with the teacher? Could she be trying to build bridges with you? Does seem odd though.

DeeWe · 17/04/2015 22:32

I can think of three possibilities.

She has concerns-maybe he says he's locked in the basement every night But I think that's the totally wrong thing to do in almost any circumstance, and can't imagine that a teacher would think it was a good idea.
She asked him what he'd like as a treat for behaving, and that's what he's suggested. Could be, I can certainly imagine a year 1 thinking that was a treat. I think mine were still hoping their teachers would come to their birthday parties at that age.

Believe it or not, at my dd's secondary one of the rewards-requested by pupils-is to have lunch with your chosen teacher

Not sure if teacher gets the right to refuse that.

She wants to view him in a home/different environment and discuss perhaps in a more casual way how you can work together for his good.

Smartiepants79 · 17/04/2015 22:35

It's very unusual. I've never come across this.
DeeWee makes good suggestions but I think this should have been done in a much more formal way if she has concerns.
You need to clarify why she wants to come.
Speak to school.

JewelFairies · 17/04/2015 22:40

According to OP the teacher is a 'he'. Not sure why this bothers me even more but my answer would be absolutely no way would my dc's teacher, male or female, visit home as a treat. What a bizarre think to suggest.

Primaryteach87 · 17/04/2015 22:46

We did home visits to all new starters (including older transfer children). We also would, on occasion have SEN meetings at home e.g to observe a child in a different setting. But this would always be discussed up front as the reason and optional for parents. 'As a treat' seems very odd to me!

KillmeNow · 17/04/2015 23:14

I would not be happy with this and would refuse to allow it to go ahead. There is no reason for a teacher to pay a visit to home .If he needs to speak to you he can phone and make a proper appointment.

mrz · 18/04/2015 06:30

If we had concerns such as suggested by DEeWe and Primaryteach it would not be a class teachers role to carry out home visits/observations in the home.it would be more usual for Ed Psychs, school nurses, family support workers to work with families in the home.

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