Ok, so I've had to teach myself the grid method to understand how ds is supposed to do his homework. Luckily I have the book Maths for Mum and Dads which really helped.
Ds then showed me how he should work this out but he's getting the basics wrong. There are easier questions I.e 49x5, which he wrote down and answered fine, when it comes to adding the larger sums up though he appears to be doing this in his head and getting some of the larger sums wrong.
I don't know how they're taught to add, I'd use the column method, carry across etc, I realise this may not be the right way for now, ds appears to be trying to add from left to right whereas I add from right to left.
We've left this for now as everyone was getting frustrated and ds ended up calling himself a loser. Not the way it should be at the weekend.
I've told him that I need him to write everything down as sometimes in maths you need to show your workings out. He can add hundreds, tens and units in his head, fine but when it comes to thousands and carrying across numbers not so.
He answered 37x81 great, but I suspect he added 2400, 560, 30, 7 in his head.
Perhaps we need to start afresh tomorrow. I also realise I'm going to have to pop in and see the teacher.
Sorry for the ramble. Any tips greatly appreciated.