Pikkewyn:
Can your DD count by 2s/ 5s/ 10s?
If so then they actually know these times tables - they just don't realise it.
Counting by 3s may be more tricky - but again - try and work on that. This is showing my age - but these US educational adverts from the 1970s www.vrml.k12.la.us/curriculum/schoolhouserock/math_shr.htm (yes the US government paid to educate children on multipication tables & grammar back in the day during Saturday cartoons - and we kids loved Schoolhouse Rock & would eagerly organise our Saturday around seeing the new one). By the way BBC 3 borrowed the music from 3 is a magic number from this.....
Once they can do these 4 (counting by 2s, 3s, 5s and tens) you're winning.
The next step is to ensure they understand x 2 is doubling.
then you can learn another 4 table just by understanding doubling:
x4 (double x 2 table facts - so 4 x 8 is the same as 2 x 8 = 16 and double 16 gives you 32).
x6 (double x3 table facts - so 4 x 6 is the same as 2 x 6 = 12 and double 12 gives you 24).
x8 (double x4 table facts or double x 2 table facts and double again)
x12 (double x 6 table facts or double x3 tables facts and double again)
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so after that you know x2, x3, x4, x5, x6, x8, x10 and x12.
School's tend to gloss over it - so worthwhile ensuring they understand anything x 0 = 0. 9,999 x 0 = 0. and anything x 1 is itself. so 9,999 x 1 = 9,999.
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and that gives you x0 - x6, x8, x10 and x12.
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let's ignore 7 for the moment and play with x9 and x11, which both have lovely patterns.
1 x 9 = 09
2 x 9 = 18
3 x 9 = 27
4 x 9 = 36
5 x 9 = 45
6 x 9 = 54
7 x 9 = 63
8 x 9 = 72
9 x 9 = 81
so there's a lovely pattern where the first number is always one less than the multiple of 9 and the second number is simply that whatever number plus the first number makes 9.
so for example - 7 x 9 - has to start with 6 (one less than 7). So what + 6 = 9 - well 3 (so the second number is 3). Knowing that you know that 7 x 9 = 63.
(you can check you're right by the way by knowing that all the digits should add up to 9 if the number is in the 9s times table). So for example 11 x 9 = 99. 9 + 9 = 18 and 1 + 8 = 9.
Now for 10 x 9 to 12 x 9:
10 x 9 (you should already know is 90)
11 x 9 (is just 9 more than 10 x 9 so 90 + 9) = 99
and you should already know 12 x 9 (from 9 x 12 in 12s table) - which is 108 (or can be thought of as (10 x 9)+ (2 x 9)= (90 + 18) = 108.
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11 is just fun and straightforward to x 9 - just write the multiple 2 times.
1 x 11 = 11
2 x 11 = 22
3 x 11 = 33
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9 x 11 = 34
again you should know that 10 x 11 = 110
but from 10 to 99 x 11 there's a trick -
for two digit multiples of 11 separate first and second number and in the middle you put the sum of the two numbers:
so 14 x 11 = 1 - (1 + 4) - 4 = 154
you may have to carry if the middle sum is = to or > 10 so for example:
38 x 11 = 3 - (3 + 8) - 8 = 3 - (11) - 8 = (3 + 1) - 1 - 8 = 418
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So that leaves 7 but in fact you know all your 7 times table facts already except 7 x 7 from your 0 - 6 and your 8 - 12 tables work. There's no trick to learning 7 x 7 = 49 except I find it easier to remember that 7 x 7 is a swine which does of course rhyme with 49.
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Once your DC 'gets' times tables they may have them but be a bit slow - so maybe know 7 x 6 = 42 but might have to work up from a secure fact like 5 x 7 = 35 and then add 7 on to slowly work out 6 x 7 = 42.
The next step is building up speed - tons of free games out there.
Woodlands Junior School Maths zone: resources.woodlands-junior.kent.sch.uk/maths/
multiplication dot come: www.multiplication.com
and we found Timez attack - which tests your child and starts from where they're at is brilliant - there's a free two platform version or you can pay for more elaborate platforms. You're cast as a young ogre and have to work through a maze (dungeon or castle) solving multiplication problems which are presented as both multiple additions and as traditional vertical maths problems. Every now and then you're quizzed by ogres and at the end of a level a giant ogre comes out to quiz you. DDs both found it a bit scary - but their speed of recall really improved thanks to this and they never viewed playing this as 'practicing times tables'. Link here: www.bigbrainz.com/Multiplication.php
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Finally don't rule out traditional games:
play times table SNAP with ordinary deck of cards - choose your table - say x4 and then write it down on a post-it. Ordinary deck of 52 cards - Ace = 1, 2 - 9 as marked, Jack = 10, Queen = 11 and King = 12. Shuffle and place face down. Flip card (say it's 8) first to work out 4 x 8 = 32 and shout out correct answer wins the card. The winner is the one with most cards at the end of the game.
We started off gently and then progressively got more competitive as DDs improved.
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can play Snakes and ladders as times tables. Use two dice. write times table on post-it. If numbers >5 may be best to play board forward and backwards - becuase of big rolls. with x9 and up - we played board 4x.
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What I will say is it is worth having this battle and putting the time in on this because sound multiplication facts underpins so much in maths.
HTH