Ds hurt at school - should I mention it to his teacher?

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Ds came home from school (first full day in Reception) with a grazed cheek. He told me that R had pushed him and another girl took him to "hospital" (medical room), where the "doctor" (nurse) gave him a tissue. I can't make out whether it was an accident or whether R was "punished" and the school did not give me any report about this, so, should I ask his teacher about it tomorrow - not sure what the procedure (if any) is?

DD, also just started school, has now twice come home with cuts to her knee, and today's is a big cut and bruising. Today I htink it was a push that caused her to fall, but from further chatting think it is when they were running, one girl tripped into her and knocked her - so accidnet. School have not mentioned anything about either accident in the playground. I guess that they don't know unless serious or a definite "bullying" type thing.

Aw, that's a shame on his first full day. Was he bothered about it or did he just shrug it off as one among many other new experiences?

I'm no expert - ds isn't there yet - but I think I'd ask the teacher in a friendly, ds said this, can you tell me what happened, kind of way. Not making a huge thing of it.

ds school always send home a slip stating a fall,bump to the head,or pushed etc, i thought all schools sent these home to say what happened, its a shame it was your ds's first full dayand got a graze, prob kids being kids and he was the one that went flying, is he bothered by it? was it the first thing he mentioned when you picked him up?

Thanks everyone for your views and concern. He didn't seem that bothered by it and didn't really want to talk about it. A teacher friend of mine said that the school should have sent a report and I should mention it.

I'm sure it's just a playground accident/scuffle and I do keep telling ds that if anyone hurts him he must tell the teacher. I think I will ask the teacher, as you say edam, in a lighthearted way. I just don't want to seem too overly concerned/protective.

We only seem to get an accident report if it involves broken skin or a bump to the head. I suppose it does depend whether DC report other incidents.

In the schools I worked in, we only ever sent home notes about bumped heads. TBH, kids get so many scrapes etc you'd have to have a separate memebr of staff to fill in all the parent reports otherwise!!

The other thing is that if it happened at playtime or lunchtime it would have most likely been dealt with by whoever was on duty and not necessarily ds's teacher. If he wasn't unduly upset by it his teacher probably wouldn't have thought anything of it, hence no mention of it to you.

Playgrounds get really boisterous and kids do fall over each other so it's often hard to establish what happened in a particular situation. Chances are it was just an accident so unless he regularly starts coming home with bumps and scrapes from the same child I wouldn't say anything at school.

But, this is me with my teacher head on. I know when ds starts school I am going to be totally the opposite and mummy will take over so I'd probably feel the same as you do .

We only get notes for bumped heads. I would not want notes for anything else to be honest. Ds seems to spend an inordinate amount of time in the office with an ice pack.

well I mentioned it to the teacher this morning and she asked ds when it happened, at which point he clammed up. But I suppose it's better that she is aware of it. Another mother with a daughter in Reception mentioned that her dd had complained about some of the bigger boys pushing the younger kids at playtime. I'm sure it's mostly just playing and high-jinks but will keep an eye on things. Thanks again for your views.