I don't want to go to school... reception.

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So, week 3 is nearly over and dd is still howling at every drop off. She is slightly better when her dad drops her, and on the bright side, she only starts crying now as we are putting shoes on (before, she cried most evenings and as soon as she got up).

Anyone else going through this, or been through this? Any words of advice or encouragement? She was so happy at preschool, this has really surprised me....

Is there a specific reason - may be worth talking to teacher? If not, you've likely hit the "going to school was a fun new experience at first, but now it's dawned on me that I have to do this every day and I'm really not sure I like that idea" stage.

I think it's very common, and unfortunately it's really just a matter of time and settling into her new routine to reconcile her.

Teacher says she is fine after I leave. It doesn't feel very common when ever other child seems to skip in happily! Wondering whether I should try and get child minder or someone else to drop her for a few days to see if that eases the 'separation'.

I think they all cope/ react differently. You would have seen my dd 'skipping in happily' but it doesn't mean she had settled yet. At home she was saying 'do I really have to go every day? I'm upset my friends are in another class etc....

Don't get me wrong it must be hard but don't assume the skippers are 100% sorted either.

My lo was fine in reception but have had problems this year, tears refusals to gett dressed ect, as long as she is fine when u leave I wouldn't worry too much. Mine always comes out happy and te teacher says she is fine a minute after I leave

My daughter was the same for the first 10 days. It was hell. She was fine after about an hour once there, and was a "handy helper" to get a sticker, but she really doesn't like reception still. She is OK to go in, and will engage in stuff that they do there, but at home she is forever asking how much longer does she need to be there and saying things like "I only go there because I have to/ I play with other children because I have to". Her spirits are truly crushed, she just isn't the same as before. And they exhaust them there, her bedtime, which has been 8PM forever (apart from when a baby obviously) has gone down to 6, and even then, like today I struggle to keep her up after 5PM. Some days I have no idea what to do, to be honest.

Dilite, I'm glad your dd is more settled going in now. It's the crushed spirit I find so hard to see, she was such a happy soul before school started. I think that's why I'm so bothered. I'm sure it will get better, but I feel there isn't much I can do if it doesn't..

My dd is struggling. I'm seriously considering pulling her out until she's older (DS was HE until yr 2 and the difference in those 2 years is amazing. For now, I'm reducing her hours to see if a more gradual transition helps her to settle.