How to deal with DD being bullied

[inloominotnorti]

Basically DD has been bullied and ostracised by everyone in her class. She is quite quiet and well behaved which is apparently causing it. ~They have accused her of doing something terrible (she didn't) but they are just fronting it and accusing her falsely on purpose. The school said they could not intervene and has basically let her be bullied. At times the teachers have even joined in.

DD now says the girls are evil,spiteful, cruel, liars and hypocrites (they keep accusing her of bullying) and she would not hang round with them even if she could because of all of the above.

Should we just leave? How do we go about resolving this peaceably?

Something needs to be done to get to the bottom of it all. How old is your dd OP? Have you spoken to the school about the teachers behaviour (from your dd perspective)

How old are they , year 5 or 6 perhaps ? Check the anti bullying policy , meet head and insist they follow it . Get incidents documented. There should be a governor responsible for this too . However at some point you may feel it simply isn't worth it and cut your losses.

The school said they could not intervene? I would be getting old of a copy of the school bullying policy and writing a letter to the head detailing every step and how they have failed your DD and ending with a request for meeting to discuss how they will rectify this.
If this fails then the governors ( you will need to jump through the chain of command hoops).
Is it a state or private school?

Well, this sounds horrendous, but your information is veryt scany.What has she been accused of, and in what way are the teachers joining in?

'very scanty'

How certain are you she hasn't done whatever it is? Sometimes children act out of character to get other children to like them - including usually good, well-behaved children who suddenly do something naughty if people have been unkind to them about being well behaved.

If you are absolutely certain, then you need to go and talk firstly to the teacher and if you get no joy, then to the head. Ask about the bullying policy and tell them that you feel this constitutes bullying, and if they do not agree then they need to explain exactly why. Follow the bullying policy to the letter.

The governors will only be asked to make sure the policy has been followed, they cannot get involved in the situation itself.

If you get no joy, I would seriously look at moving schools.

I would be complaining to the school and finding out what they plan to do about it.

I do find your comment "The school said they could not intervene and has basically let her be bullied. At times the teachers have even joined in."

First that it has been going on so long.
Second that you are accusing Teachers of taking part in bullying.

How do you know she didn't "do it" or was "involved" in whatever it was?

If there is something being ignored, then I would suggest you put a complaint in writing.

No DD most definitely did not do what they are accusing her of! She's easily embarrassed and they are accusing her of some lewd and lacivious behaviour! She is just mortified that they are using words she doesn't like using, and they are playing on her embarrassment! I'm getting the "it's her word against theirs" thrown at me every time I complain.

I have been to the teacher and the head. The head is lovely but can't or won't do anything, and the teacher was very worrying, in that she quite openly sides with the girls bullying dd and will not even consider anything other than her point of view.

I think I will call and find out how many school places there are in our area.

I think you need to request a meeting with the head and the teacher to put an end to this. Is it possible they are not aware of the impact this incident and subsequent bullying is having on your DD. What is the schools bullying policy? Perhaps get a copy for each of them to remind them of their duties.

'the teacher was very worrying, in that she quite openly sides with the girls bullying dd '

so what actually are the teachers doing, when you say they join in with bullying her about alleged lewd and lacivious behaviour.It sounds very unprofessional to say the least