"I've got no friends, no-one will let me play with them"

[FluffyCharlotteCorday]

Have just had about half an hour crying from DS (7) who has just started his new junior school. Sounds like none of the children will play with him, he goes off to ask another group and is told no. He sits at the Friend Stop bench and gets ignored. When he's told the teachers, they've told the kids off or told him they can't do anything about it.

He's never had this problem before, has always been reasonably accepted as one of the group, although last term he did say he wasn't being allowed to play football as much because he's too small. But then he played with some of the younger boys. No younger boys to play with now though.

I don't know what to do about it.
Have to go now as have a friend coming for dinner and can't log back in this evening, but would be grateful for any advice. Should I wait a bit, till parent's evening (in 2 weeks) or approach his form teacher now?

i posted almost exactly the same a couple of weeks ago. its awful isnt it

however things do seem to have improved a lot in a very short space of time. i spoke to his teacher and was told it wasnt actually as bad as he was making out, i know it will be hard to believe but it may just be one or two bad playtimes. my ds got v upset over a couple of occasions, i was told that when his teacher was on duty she saw him playing with people and ds suddenly remembered that he had, previously had forgotten all about it. we invited a friend home for tea and i think that made the biggest difference. he has also started at one of the after school clubs the school runs, so he is getting more social time.

i do hope things improve, its horrid thinking they are unhappy at school

here is my thread from a few weeks ago. hope it helps. do speak to his teacher now, you dont have to make an appointment or anything, just grab them before/after class. good luck to your ds!

my son went through a stage like that at the beginning of school and it does feel terrible at the time, but as gg says things do change fast. Children always seem to pick one child to exert their power on on any particular day, you just want to make sure it's not for too many days. Speak to the teacher and if you don't feel alright, ask to see the head teacher as well. Friends for tea is great (not more than one though as sometimes a threesome can end up 2 against 1) and anything that builds confidence is great. I took my son to Relax Kids classes which were great - infact I recently trained as a teacher myself and am now empowering little people all over the place! It's great for building confidence and creativity and letting them just be............ good luck

How many times did I say "great"! I must be too tired and need to go to bed!
It's been great to post!

Thanks for the thread gg.

Didn't manage to see his teacher this morning, I think I might need to write her a note.