Have I made a mistake with my Son's school

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DS started reception on Mon, after a few tears he's been really good about going in (he only attended nursery 3 days for 5 hrs so going 5 days is a big step for him) we live in south east London near to family (10-20 minutes away). Since having ds we have been thinking about moving to a more affordable area with countryside nearby. we were considering somewhere which would be 30-40 mins away from family on a good m25 day. Then two years ago my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer, v early stages and between me and my sister we took him to every chemo/radio/consultation and visits when he was often in hospital (26 weeks of the year) he passed away last summer a few weeks after I miscarried an ivf pregnancy at 12 weeks. Loonngggg story short we just didn't have time to find a house and couldn't deal with the upheaval. We got DS in to what is considered a great local state school and thought we'd move him at junior school age as its separate in the area we like so a move for all children there (although children would have groups of friends moving with them not an entire class). My issue is that at this school drop off many mums are smoking, drinking red bull and wearing pyjamas. This is day 2 for children that attended the preschool and the children are already turning up late (is this normal? - some 20 mins after the school bell has gone - I had to stay to talk to school assistant) its a non uniform school and the 3/4/5 year olds have football kits on and wearing gel in their hair? Its just not what I wanted for DS to be somewhere that education doesn't seem valued by majority of parents. So options are - move him to private school for 3 years and find a space for him now/jan. keep with this school but move next summer to the area we were thinking of or stay were we are (is being near family more important?)

I just feel like I've made all the wrong choices for my DS and want to do what's best for us all.

Ate you sure they are late? It could be a staggered start for some of the yr children.

Thanks for all the comments, i think ive probabky junped to conclusions which is wrong but I've panicked. I couldn't care less about the hair gel & red bull, pjs to school I find bizarre but there you go. lateness - 20 mins, in reception, from people that live yards from school on their children's first week makes me worry - I think that's fair enough. I want my DS to make good friends and would have preferred it to be with children with like minded mums and dads... I don't feel there's anything wrong with a nanny at all but again was thinking of playdates/friends. Happy with the teachers and the school but just wanted the ideal where everyone wanted to set a good example - will see how it pans out but if these parents are the majority then ill consider moving. I think ok just disappointed I didn't do it before as this is what I expected.

2 things, my DD goes to a childminder before and after school. One of her friends has a nanny who takes him to and from school. DD often goes to play at her friends house, the childminder and nanny sort it out, I get told , wveryone is happy - please do make friends with nannies and childminders too, they are usually just as friendly as anyone else!

But lots of kids arriving late regularly would worry me, it's disruptive for the class and wastes time and doesn't set a good example for kids. A few kids are always regularly late though, at any school, but a large number would raise my concerns. Are the late kids all yr r, where perhaps parents haven't got the hang of it yet? If so, fair enough. But if they are parents of yr 2,3,4 children etc, it would worry me.