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Jhunter5 · 02/09/2014 19:37

My partner's child is 6 and just started back into Primary 2. The problem we are having, and we had it last year towards the end, is that he lines up in the morning when the bell goes and then when the teacher comes to let him in he runs out of the line and back to find mum or dad. Once he is in he is absolutely fine, and there is no crying or tantrums. He just keeps running out the line. I have spoken to him, his dad has talked to him and his mum has spoken to him but nothing is working? I have never witnessed this I just know he is doing it.
Any suggestions why this might be or what could be done to help?

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tippytappywriter · 02/09/2014 19:52

My son does this but I don't think it is a problem. He comes back to give me a kiss and then in he goes. Do the school not like it? Could the teacher praise/encourage him for coming in if it is an issue?

clam · 02/09/2014 19:54

Could his mum and dad not say goodbye before the teacher comes to get the line in? I presume this is on the playground and therefore safe to do? Warn her first that they will be doing this, so she can keep an eye and head him off from disappearing.
If this was one of my class, I'd make sure I was standing next to him when Mum/Dad were leaving and holding his hand, or giving him the big job of leading the line in sensibly or something - anything to distract him.

Jhunter5 · 03/09/2014 22:37

All the others line up. It's not that that is the problem. The problem is the bell goes the teacher comes to bring them in and he runs out to find mum or dad and clings on to them. He's not crying. When his dad collects him from his mums he does a similar thing where he clings on to her and hides his face on her tummy, again he's not crying I think it's an attention thing. His parents are talking to him about staying in the line but every day he comes to ours he says he ran out the line because he was scared to go into school. He had a very bumpy P1 where he was on a behaviour chart for the year!

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cansu · 03/09/2014 22:42

Maybe you are making too much of it and he is picking up that doing this gets him lots of attention. How would it be if everyone is very matter of fact and blasé about it? he may well drop it if it is not getting him the attention he is expecting. This is just an idea by the way, May or may not work. I have always remembered a child who didn't want to come to school pretending he had a poorly leg. I decided to be kind and supportive but not mention or refer to his leg at all. He stopped after a few hours and was fine afterwards. This obviously wouldn't work in a child with severe school phobia and anxiety, but with this particular child it worked well as he was struggling to separate from a parent after there had been an illness in the family.

Jhunter5 · 04/09/2014 18:26

He comes back, clings into the parent an the teacher has to prise him off. My partner has said buy walked round the building to the gate and next thing he has run out line all way round to him.
He has been spoken to by parents and told he needs to line up nicely but just keeps running out. He has said he does it because he is scared of school.

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