Am I being unreasinable to ban sleepovers till after ds' 11+

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As I said on another thread ds is taking the 11+ in September, he really needs to be doing a reasonable amount of work 5 days a week. Everytime he has a sleepover he stays up half the night on screens and he knackered and bad tempered the next day. He has been asked for sleepover next week (so 21/2 weeks before the exam) AIBU to say no and to explain the reason to the parents ?

"Poor boy" give me a break.

In a couple of months he can have all the sleepovers he wants.Op you know your child,if you think no then say no.

Hardly child cruelty postponing a sleepover.I've said no to sleepovers when they're too knackered let alone for the 11+.

Agree with Seagull I practically snorted when I read the 'poor boy' comment, talk about a first world problem, shock, horror not allowing your child to have one sleepover. It's ridiculous. The majority of children these days in the UK these days need to experience what it is to work hard and not be so indulged. If you want to do well, you need to do X,Y and Z to get results.

Also agree with RougeDad that a good 11 + result can change a child life.
I wonder what the OP ended up deciding to do...

Sorry about typos

DS (11) has a sleepover next weekend. I hope he doesn't fail his GCSEs

However, he is capable of understanding the concept of work/life balance so knows that the going out and socialising with his friends is dependent on his keeping on top of his school work and achieving to the best of his ability. On the other hand, it is currently his summer holidays and I know that when school starts, the demands of adjusting to secondary school and the homework that comes with it will leave him precious little time for sleepovers and such like then. So I am happy for him to enjoy being a child at the moment!

As for the comment about it being a "first world problem" - I am assuming that the OP lives in the UK (hence the 11+) so will find it difficult to experience other types of problems. Or would you like her to move countries so that she can have things to worry about which MN deems worthy of concern?

Why would he fail his GCSE's by going on a sleepover now?

I would presume that comment was a joke...

Thanks all. There is a real balance of opinions, which is good. I am holding my fire on this ds doesn't know a sleepover might be on the cards. I will see how he is doing later in the week before deciding.

I am aware these are his summer holidays which is why since coming back from holiday a week ago he has been to the theatre, the circus, the beach, played crazy golf, been swimming, played football for his team twice as well as studied an hour a day and found time for minecraft.