teacher calling DD by wrong name for 2 yaers

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I have 2 DDs still at primary.Their names begin with the same letter (lets say Mary and Martha-not their real names).It is a small school of 50 pupils with no other Marys or Marthas and obviously all the teachers know all the children very well.
.Last year Mary was in Y4 and had had the same teacher in Y3, and Martha was in Y2.
Despite being in her class for 2 years , Mary's teacher cannot remember her name.Well at least she does know it but continually calls her Martha and gets really angry if DD does not respond or reminds her that she is Mary.

One time this teacher was organising a whole school event and seating the children in mixed age tables and called for Martha, who trotted over and the teacher snapped 'Not you', other Martha' and told Mary off for not coming when called.I actually think it is the height of rudeness to refer to her as 'other Martha' because it means she knows it is the wrong name but is still persisting in using it
After sports day on the last week of term the children were dismissed from from the village playing fields about 100m from the school .After collecting her from there I told Mary to run back to school and get her school shoes .The teacher could not see me because I had the car door open helping strap Martha in.She started calling 'Martha, Martha' and DD said politely, 'I am Mary' and the teracher really told her off for being so cheeky as to correct her.
Now this woman retired at the end of last term, but I have just heard that Owing to family illness of another teacher she will be covering Y5/6 for at least the first term next year.
Should I lay don the law from the start of term ?

Yes I think a quiet word at the beginning of term would be in order.

Why did you not say anything to her at the time?

I would definitely not stand for this.

I'm not sure you should lay down the law, but yes I'd certainly say something at the start.

Blimey I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. I am sure the teacher doesn't get the name wrong every single time.

I have 2 DSes, DS2 was quite often called DS1's name and vice versa by teachers who taught them both. Their names are very different, it didn't occur to me or them to be bothered.

But she is bothered -that's the thing.Anyway it's not so much the calling of the wrong name, as the telling off DD for correcting her.

if she was making a mistake and then saying 'ooh sorry dear' when corrected that would be fair enough.
telling the child off is just nasty.

How many times have you raised this with the teacher already?
What has she said about it?

I agree with PPs, it's the telling off that would really bother me.

My DDs are a year apart and so DD2 has followed DD1 through school (ie DD1 has left the class as DD2 has gone in each time.) So teachers do sometimes get their names mixed up, especially at the beginning of the year. They always realise and say sorry though.

The teacher is the one being very rude, not your daughter!

Could she wear a name badge? May help to remind the teacher. If I was her I'd find it very irritating too.

Wow yeah that's really rude, I think I'd have said something earlier. Fine to make a genuine mistake, really not ok to tell a child off for correcting her in this case.

I would be tempted to teach DD to accidentally call the teacher by another teacher's name all the time. But I'm evil, you probably shouldn't do that.

I would not like this. We have six classes in each year at our primary but the teachers know their pupils names.

God thats terrible. Sounds like the womans lost her marbles.

I am an, ahem, older teacher and I do often sometimes call the DC someone elses name by mistake. But I do always apologise, correct myself and we have a laugh about it. This sounds very strange and deliberate.

What is she like as a teacher?

My boys have had this but when they correct the teacher (politely) the teachers will apologise etc. And it's all done cheerfully and no one is offended.

I would be annoyed by this teacher, the telling off and the attitude that it doesn't matter esp when she had taught her for two years!

Wow that is shocking tbh

Mistakes happen occasionally with siblings and I'd assume other kids but surely the reaction would be to have a bit of a giggle after apologising not telling the kid off for not answering to a name that's not hers or being reminded what her name actually is.

That's not on at all tbh

Whenever I've been into the office at dds school the head has always addressed every kid that's there by their correct names. I'm sure she makes the odd mistake or whatever but there are 400 + kids and if the head can remember her a fair chunk of them then a teacher can remember her class surely?

Mistakes happen, but telling your DD off for correcting her is not nice at all.

I had a DF who looks extremely like her older sister. She spent most of Y7 telling teachers she wasn't Jane. They were all perfectly nice about it and said sorry.

You should of dealt with this situation as soon as it happened or as soon as your girls told you.
You are their mother and you must contact the head at the school and explain the situation and request a meeting with this teacher as her behaviour has been totally unacceptable and you do not wish it to continue.

My sister has gone through from reception to year 11 in the same schools I went to and has often been called by my name by the older teachers despite me having left before she started (our names don't start with the same letter or sound even vaguely similar but we are almost identical and have similar personalities) mistakes happen, BUT if my sister said 'I'm x' the teachers would always say something like 'oops sorry, of course you are'.

It's the attitude I'd be complaining about rather than the getting the names wrong.

Something similar happened to me as child and even as an adult. My surname is also a female first name so I was often called by my surname. I appreciate it can be an easy mistake to make if you've only just met me. But if I have corrected you every time you refer to me by my surname over several months then yes, I get annoyed. Because to me its being done on purpose if it continuesand signifies ddisrespect.

In my 20's I worked with a horrible woman who did it all the time. I'd correct her and say 'thats my surname, my name is ' and she'd say indignantly "thats what I said" at which I'd point out again she didn't because she'd used my surname instead. I'd always get a rude huff or tut in response like I was being unreasonable. Then during a meeting in front of lots of colleagues we had it all over again at which her response this time was "whatever, same difference!". I kept my compsure but I was burning with anger