Dd in y4 mainly playing with boys.

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I swing between not being worried about it and happy she's finally got some friends that she plays with regularly to fretting that when she starts secondary that she'll have no one again. She has struggled a bit throughout primary with friendships, always being on the outskirts of friendship groups and has only in the last few months found her place within a group of 4 quirky boys. They all play imaginary games together that sound quite complicated! These are boys who are not interested in sport etc and dd claims the girls mainly stand around talking and she would rather play. All sounds good in theory but I still worry about her being odd one out in her class. Any advice?

Well she has four other friends, so she doesn't sound like the odd one in the class.

Gender shouldn't be relevant, unless she desperately wants to be friends with the girls and they are excluding her, but if it i
her choice I don't think it is an issue.

Whats the problem? She has boys as friends? They're just..boys, you know the other half of the human race?

My DD(15) hangs around in a group of about 15, she is one of 4 girls in the group. Gender should never be important in friendships.

I don't understand what the issue is here? Friends are friends surely?

My sister and niece were like this. All fine until the boys got to the age (probably about 10/11) when the boys didn't want to hang out with girls (even cool ones).

Gender shouldn't be relevant as long as her friends are treating her well and she is happy.

If anything i think boys are less likely to be bitchy and exclude someone so she might actually be better off.

At secondary there will be a much wider spectrum of people with different interests, she'll probably find her niche much easier when she moves up.

I don't have a problem with the fact they're boys! I'm really pleased she just finally has a (hopefully) solid group of friends and she does seem happier.

Oh I guess I'm being silly and worrying about nothing! Thanks all.

My son is y3 and there's a girl in his group of friends. She sounds like the other boys in the group so Imnot surprised that they get along. They seem to play a lot of running games

The girl has had the odd comment from children not in the group On the lines of S (the girl) loves C (a boy) but she is good at batting comments and the group stick up for her. "You're jealous because she can run faster than you." "You're so dumb and sexist."

I think its more common now that when I was a kid - girls just didn't mix with boys! This was before we got all touchy/huggy/kissy too (old school Scot).

Now its not unusual to see gaggles of kids in a mixed groups as friends (so not a mix of boyfriends/girlfriends and mates).