Feeling so sad

[FeelingSadInside]

After a disastrous 4 years at junior school, I've decided to move my youngest DS to another school.

Which I don't expect to be any better, I have no faith in any school. But I do expect it to be better for me and him, because we won't have all the history and mistakes and hurtful things hanging round.

I told the HT yesterday I was moving DS, and she was as mean to me as she normally is, saying she felt sorry for him being moved, and that school had done an excellent job and i was the one with a problem....

But mostly she was very surprised, even though I'd just written her a letter saying how concerned i was about which teacher he'd get next year. And she replied that she couldn't help.

And now I feel so sad and rubbish. Instead of being happy. There's nothing I want from school anymore. All i want is for my DC to grow up. But how can I stop feeling so sad inside? How can I stop dreading everything about primary school? How can I resolve these unresolvable problems?

They won't accept any mistakes were made, or that I have any reason to be upset. So how can I get 'closure' and 'move on'?

I know exactly how you feel OP, it's the guilt you feel as a parent, I felt I'd let my ds down badly. I moved him half way through Y2.

He's been at his new school for a few months now and he's settling well. I won't go into all the reasons why we moved. One of the reasons is we wanted him attending a bigger primary, his old school was small and little incidents seemed magnified. Took me about a year to pluck up the courage to move him. Such a hard decision. He misses his teacher, still talks about her. He was doing well academically which made the decision much harder.

Not sure how I feel about his new school yet. His new teacher met him on his first day without a smile and without the encouragement I would have expected but I've reserved judgement. He's not far off heading into Y3 so I'm optimistic that once he moves up to the new class, he'll be no longer perceived as the new boy and will feel more settled.

I'm trying to do as PSBD has suggested and put in the effort at home too, although this is easier said than done, ds doesn't actively volunteer to do extra work at home, although he does like to read but usually by stretching out bed time . I've recently bought the Carol Vorderman maths books and ds has done a few of the sections, he always needs encouragement to do these though.

I'm hoping you feel more positive once your ds starts his new school. It sounds like you've had a rotten time of it lately so chin up. Onwards and upwards

Yes, loads of guilt.

I could have done better by my DC and I didn't.

I should have moved them earlier and I didn't.

At least I've sorted it all now before summer, and don't have this hanging over the summer holidays.