Hitting, pinching in Reception

[noblegiraffe]

How common is hitting and pinching when another child annoys them in Reception? DS's teacher seems to be playing it down 'just one incident today' but I'm wondering if DS is the talk of the playground mums and will never be invited to a party ever again.

Seems to be pretty common in DD's class, along with pushing. So long as it's not the same child hitting/pinching every day then it'll be forgotten by Monday.

Completely normal! Both mine got done for BITING in Reception but it became apparent that this was more open-mouthed tussling than anything else and they are extremely mild-mannered teen/tween individuals now.

It is normal but it obviously should be dealt with. My calm mannered little boy was targeted every day by a child, I was angry and did contact the school ensuring it was stopped. It is normal but that does not mean the other children have to put up with it.

It is every day at the moment. :( Firsf got brought up last week but I don't know if he has done it before that.

He is an unhappy boy in the evenings because he isn't allowed on the iPad or to watch tv if he hurts someone that day and we've had multiple conversations about how he should tell the teacher if someone is annoying him (he and the teacher say it is because he is being wound up) but he still keeps doing it.

Can't the teacher move him so he can play with or sit next to children who do not push his buttons? The other parents might ask for it anyway. I think the teacher should react before the parents do.

Don't punish him at home, it's been dealt with at school. By all means have a stern word to reinforce what the teacher says - hitting and pinching are not acceptable - but I'd also be concerned that he's being targeted by other children because they know he is easy to goad into a response. That's as undesirable behaviour as the hitting and pinching.

There don't appear to be any sanctions applied at school apart from a telling off.

I've done a stern talking to and we've also done some role play. I think to leave sanctions up to the school on something as important as not hitting other children is a bit soft though, if another child had pinched and hit mine and the parents did nothing I'd be a bit .