mentioning concerns at a parents induction meeting?

[Itsjustmeagain]

My dd is starting school in September. She is going to the same school as her sisters and will have her older sister current teacher next year (so we have met already!).

I am REALLY worried about dd starting school even though the older three had no problems whatsoever. She has been toilet trained since she was around 2.5 but when she is upset or stressed she wees herself pretty much all the time (we are not talking about once accident it is 4 or 5 in a day). This has been a major issue for her at nursery and still is. She NEVER has accidents at home or out with me or dh but leave her at nursery and she does. We tried moving nuseries to see if ti was the nursery but it was the same story. She gets in trouble because she wont sit down to eat at nursery (even though she does at home) again that was the same at both nurseries amongst other things.

She is one of the younger ones (she is not 4 until August) but I am really concerned as I realise that she cant really continue this behaviour at school but as it ONLY happens at school and seems to be stress related I dont know what I can do to stop it.

We have an induction meeting next week which is normally a group talk plus a visit to the classroom to meet the teacher - would this be a good time to raise my concerns? or would it be better to wait until September when she is actually part of the school proper? I have never had to raise any issues or concerns with the school before despite having three older children there - they just go and come home! so I am not sure how to approach it!

I think an induction meeting isn't ideal timing for a private chat. Is the class teacher going yo pay you a home visit? Or could you book a separate meeting?

I would imagine that the teachers would be busy with all the parents that night, so it would be preferable to make a separate appointment to discuss the issue. You may as well ask at the meeting when you could arrange such an appointment.

I would raise concerns this term, but probably not in front of loads of other parents at the group induction meeting. I don't think it is fair to spring this on the teacher with no warning in September.

Can you do one of:

• catch the reception teacher at the end of the day
• drop a note into the office outlining issues and ask teacher to call you
• or is there a home visit?

They may also get reports from nursery too to help them.

I guess you need to:

• raise the issues you think may arise
• agree initial strategies you and school are happy with, to deal with them
• agree how you will be informed how it is all going, and that plans may need adjusting

You already have a relationship with the teacher, and she will know you aren't fussing for the sake of it as you haven't with older sibling, so she should be willing to discuss with you.

Tbh I would mention it, maybe make an appointment to see them. The school can then put a plan in place. Reminding her to go to the toilet, agreeing on where her spare pants etc should be stored, whether she will just go and get them herself and change. If it is bad I think you can get pads which might help her. They can also support her with sitting down to eat.

X post. I would definitely make an appointment as you probably won't get much chance to really chat to the teacher.

Ok I am going to ask about a private meeting, we didnt have one with the others but I can ask about having one before dd starts.

I feel a little embarrassed about it tbh ! The teacher is lovely so I am hoping she have some suggestions or experiences