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Will moving DS2 to a new school at Year 2 "ruin his confidence"

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girlynut · 11/06/2014 14:33

Historically schools in my town have been First School (Reception to Yr3), followed by Middle School (Yr 4 - 8) then high school. This will all change in 2015 to bring us in line with the rest of the country and the Key Stages. No objections to that at all.

DS1 is in Year 4 at his new Middle School and, although he found it hard to settle at first in Sept, he now loves it.

We had always planned that DS2, who is currently in Reception, would follow his brother to the same Middle School when he reached Yr 4. But because of the changes he will now be expected to stay at his current First school.

The First school is getting a new Head, new teachers and will be building new classrooms to accomodate the new, older children that will be coming up "thorugh the ranks" from 2015. They assure us that the school will be fully equipped to teach older children and will follow the national curriculum.

Whilst the First school is a lovely small (2 x 30 per year) place for children to start and has a great pastoral care and family feel, I don't think it is equipped with the IT and sports facilities that kids of 8, 9 and 10 years old require. I also don't think the school pushes the children as hard academically as the Midddle school. For example homework in Yr 3 was once every 3 or 3 weeks and suddenly jumped to every night in Yr 4 when DS1 moved over.

We've been offered the chance to apply for a place for DS2 to move to the Middle school with his older brother in 2015 (when he'll be starting Yr2). This is possible as the school also has a separate First School provision. I would prefer to do this as I think he'll benefit more long term being in the bigger school with more resources. Also the changes to his First school are an unknown so I prefer to move him to a school where we already know how they cater for the different age ranges.

The difficulty is that all of his peers seem to be staying put at the First school. I've asked other parents in the playground and also asked the school but it appears he will be the only one to move.

My husband feels that moving to a new school with all new classmates at Yr2 will be too tough on him and will knock his confidence (he'll have just turned 6) and that we should leave him put with his established freidnship groups. DH has every confidence in the school making the necessary changes.

I, on the other hand, think that he'll probably be a bit unsettled for a while (as was his brother) but that he'll soon adapt and over the long term he'll benefit from being at a larger school (5 x 30 per year)with better facilities. I also think he'll have less of a shock on the transition to high school.

We can't agree. We've spoken to teachers and parents but everyone has a different view. As our only exposure to the new school is from DS1 being in Yr 4, we're going to have a tour of the First School provision to get a feel for it on 19 June.

The deadline for applications is 20 June. How do we make a decision if we can't agree?!

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Miggsie · 11/06/2014 14:36

We moved our DD in the middle of year 2 - no problems at all, she much preferred the new school!
She soon made many friends.
The caveat here is that the school she moved too was welcoming with small class sizes and has a real ethos of not leaving people out and playing all together - if the school doesn't have this ethos it will be tougher.

Ask the new school how they manage integrating new kids. DD's school has a "buddy" system where the kids vied to be the new class mates "buddy" and look after them. This really helped. The mums were really friendly too.

redskyatnight · 11/06/2014 14:45

So if he moves his entire cohort will be "new" (as Y2 doesn't exist in current school)? And I would guess the school would be bending over backwards to integrate them? Sounds like an ideal school moving scenario?

DillydollyRIP · 11/06/2014 14:45

We moved last year the first week after Easter.
Ds was in yr2 and started the Junior school In the September.
His old school was a primary so he would have stayed there until high school. I'm really proud of how well he's coped. His reading and maths has improved greatly since we moved here and he has made so many new friends. He was one of the quiet boys but he now is a really confident, chatty little boy.

Children manage Better than we think, they're resilient little things. I, on the other hand have really struggled moving areas and trying to make friends.

iseenodust · 11/06/2014 14:55

I moved DS in October of yr2. Did wonders for his confidence from day 1 as was a much better school. He moved again at start of yr5 for some of the reasons you mention though & that has gone fine too, especially friendships. Yr2 school was great in terms of teaching and pastoral but no real teams sports & just one of those things but more girls than boys in that year (1 class intake).

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