Hi Judyandherdreamofhorses:
I agree with a lot of what morethanpotatoprints is saying - especially if in general children aren't too far behind where they should be
but....
and stressing that I'm just a Mum....
Sometimes you do need to actively intervene.
I've been on a lot (see maths feeds for backstory) - but in short, DD1 was seriously behind at end of KS1 (NC L1 across the board on Y2 SATs) so we have employed two strategies for DD1:
If you want to do that in future you need to realise it involves:
- HARD WORK
and
- EDUCATION
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She watches a show with Brian Cox (Wonders of the Universe/ Solar System - Stargazing Live) or 'Dr. Maggie' (Dr. M. Aderin-Pocock/ The Sky at Night) and enthuses about them and we discuss how hard he's had to work to achieve this, the mathematics involved to understand the things they are discussing, etc....
She and her sister have adored BBC4s The Secrets of Bones with Ben Garrod - again we've discussed that to do what he does it takes dedication, hard work and education.
The Olympics have been brilliant - especially the little biopics about athletes - because she's learned that it has taken years of practice and hard work to achieve that level of fitness and skill as an athlete. She really responded to Jessica Ennis - and watching the documentary about her training and the team of coaches/ physiotherapists around her and all the travelling, training and pain she's had to endure really hit home.
My brother teaches primary in the US and he really pushes sports heroes as role models for his kids. He finds this especially useful with the boys - and he also brings in sports statistics (understanding them/ working out what they mean/ creating dream teams and following their performance) in his maths teaching for = UK Y5/ Y6 children.
We've also made a point of discussing the effort that goes into things she enjoys - films/ cartoons. We look at the credits and discuss the huge team of people necessary to make the film/ cartoon. We discuss the computing involved. If there are little 'extras' about how the film was made at the end of the DVD and they seem particularly good at showing all the work involved - we'll show those to her as well - so she understands the film/ cartoon isn't something just whipped up - it's taken hundreds of people and years of effort to put together.
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DD1 attends a Cof E school and I think my one major complaint about the institution is that Ye Olde Protestant Work Ethic is not conveyed to the children.
So at home, with conspiring relatives/ friends, we work hard to show her that success rarely comes from out of the blue - it usually comes from hard work, good ideas (which often are aided by a good educaiton) and training. Education is the key to a lot of success - understanding how to do things (be they sports, music, maths, etc....) takes years of practice & training.
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I don't know that we've totally won - but we're hopeful that she's learned through doing more herself that things which once were difficult can become easier, if not easy.
HTH