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Help bad teacher

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jellybeans001 · 04/02/2014 17:07

Hi need some help my son is 5 years old and is in reception. His teacher I'm not soo happy about he called my son stupid for kissing him and my son yesterday took his teachers ginger bread man home and ate it without me knowing it was the teachers and said to me that what he did was stealing. I feel this teacher has gone over the top abit and should not be behavouring this way. How should I deal with him

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mrz · 04/02/2014 17:39

Telling your son "he was being stupid" for doing something is NOT the same as calling your child stupid. The first is referring to behaviour the second to the person.

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jellybeans001 · 04/02/2014 17:49

His teacher spoke to me saying what he did was stealing and oak I did tell my son off and told him never to do it again if you've read my posts. So don't comment on my parenting as I'm upset with him and don't accept that behaviour. But was asking generally about his teacher because naturally as a parent you are protective and sometesimes let emotions take over. Was asking for advice not to be critised

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jellybeans001 · 04/02/2014 17:50

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jellybeans001 · 04/02/2014 17:52

I understand now new to whole school and classroom I've let my emotion take over and should never have taken it bad thanks everyone some great advice

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RussianBlu · 04/02/2014 23:21

I cant believe for a moment that a teacher called a child stupid for giving them a kiss. Male or female. No sir.

BluBurd · 04/02/2014 23:34

I remember marching my eldest back to the library to return a toy she'd tried to hide up her sleeve when he was 4 librarian looked at me like I was some sort of child abuser! I wouldn't have a problem with a teacher telling my child off for stealing. That's what it is.

clam · 05/02/2014 08:44

I did something a bit similar when I was four. My mother marched me back to the shop to return it, and I was mortified. I can still feel the embarrassment and shame 45 years on.
But I've never stolen anything in my life since!

Crowler · 05/02/2014 08:56

I think your son is not relaying the story faithfully.

He's obviously upset about how his kiss was received and I would want to resolve that.

I think his teacher was right to tell him he was wrong to have taken the cookie, but I think "steal" is pretty heavy language here.

IHaveSeenMyHat · 05/02/2014 10:00

I don't think "stealing" is heavy language. The teacher isn't saying the child is a moral degenerate, or passing any sort of judgement.

Adikia · 05/02/2014 10:25

I'm hoping your son has misunderstood and the teacher actually said something like 'oh, stop being so stupid' in a nice way when your son kissed him, my 5 year old doesn't always quite repeat things in the same way/tone they were said so it ends up sounding far nastier than it was, admittedly silly would of been a better word to use but it's still very different to 'you're stupid' iyswim. Have you asked the teacher?

I actually agree with the teacher about stealing, I don't think there is such a thing as being too young to be told that.

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columngollum · 28/02/2014 16:36

Well, no. To be charged with theft the conditions above would have to be met. My cat steals all the time. But it hasn't been locked up by the Old Bill lately.

AICM · 28/02/2014 16:57

The legal definition is only relevant if the teacher called the police and asked for the child to be prosecuted.

In all other cases the dictionary definition is perfectly correct. The child did steel, he is a thief. A good teacher would have a quiet word with the child, not used these words and used the situation as a way to help the child understand how the world is. However the teacher was, technically, correct.

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jellybeans001 · 28/02/2014 18:37

Thanks everyone spoke to teacher next day and he said everything was fine and that my son was a lovely boy which he is and that maybe he didn't fully understand what he had done but anyway it's just a biscuit. I'm sure more then 50 percent of mumsneters children have taken something that did not belong to them so my child is not the only one so stealing and being a thief is abit extreme. Hand on heart I'm sure most parents have had their children do this whether it was a chocolate etc so think the words used are abit extreme and that makes your little ones stealers and theifs to

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