My daughter is a funny, confident, self assured and fiercely independent little girl who on paper should love school, made lots of friends and be sucking it all up BUT NO! I know that my daughter can be a bit of a challenge in that she is very wilful but I just don't feel that the teacher "gets" her and treats her more as a irritation than anything else which over the last few weeks has seen her pigeonholed into the disruptive, behaviourally challenged" box. I believe that her class have picked up on this so are often on her case, pointing out, disciplining, correcting and alerting staff to any slight mistake she might make throughout the day. This can range from picking up someone else's toy, not tidying up immediately when asked, accidental trips or bumps into other children etc. Being excluded is one of her worst fears and when friendships naturally break down in the playground, my daughter is quickly broken, will cry loudly and sometimes hits out at her tormentors who laugh at her despair. it is easy to get a rise from her as she continues to battle with controlling her emotions and this has proved quite entertaining for some of the children. if you corner a bear and consistently poke it with a stick,,that bear WILL hit out and I am worried that this is happening to my daughter. In calmer moments at home, I have asked her which Little Miss she is from her book collection and she chooses Little Miss Naughty. She lashed out at a boy today and gave him a nose bleed. felt terrible shame, made him a sorry card before the end of the day and unprompted, tonight told me that she was a "horrible girl". My concern is that my daughter's card is now marked (by her teacher and worst of all her peers) and she has begun to believe that she really is that naughty girl so is now deliberately moulding herself into that image through increasingly poor behaviour in class. Two girls are often a bit spiteful to her (she has been good friends with them before school even started although they did not know each other) but the teachers only ever seem to witness my daughters loud and often physical reactions to their quiet comments. They are also the daughters of two of my best mum friends. In short, my daughter sticks out like a sore thumb. I know that her listening skills aren't great and it must be difficult and frustrating to teach her at times as she is such a "freestyler" always engaged in a song, but I fear that she has made life very difficult for herself already at just 4 years old and everything that made her unique is in danger of being slowly eroded away. I find it difficult to distinguish between how much of what is happening is down to my daughter's personality, short term behavioural issues common in four year olds (which i can discipline in the normal way) and how much is down to how she is being "managed" by her teachers/perceived by her peers. Help!