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Teacher called my child a liar ....

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Hannahmum35 · 13/01/2014 11:38

My daughter (age 11) came home really upset last week. She loves her teacher and the according to her (and 8 other children in the class whom I have spoken to) her teacher called her a liar in front of the entire class.

My daughter can be many things but we have a strong trusting relationship and she has, to my knowledge, never lied to me. She swears to me she didn’t lie and was keen to explain to the teacher why she was not a liar but the teacher would not let her speak and said no talking back.

The entire thing it very upsetting as it was over such a small matter as trainers. She was suppose to have them but they were muddy so I told her to bring them in one day later and I would clean them and just use her plimsolls this once.

I probably should have written a note, but surely she is 11 and doesn’t need notes for little things like that. When the teacher asked where her trainers were she replied she didn’t have them (meaning to say before she got interrupted by the teacher) … today as my mum is cleaning them for me. However teacher interrupted with: You do have trainers, I have seen them. You’re a liar (rather loud according to her friends).

It seems so harsh to me and I am unsure what to do next, if anything …

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lljkk · 13/01/2014 11:41

A quiet word in the teacher's ear.

Boreoff456 · 13/01/2014 11:44

Speak to the teacher. That should be the first step in any issues you have with a school.

MoreSkyThanWeNeed · 13/01/2014 11:46

I don't think you really need to do anything, but if you want to, could you have a casual word with the teacher? Just say your DD was upset and get her version of events.

Tbh it doesn't sound like that big of a deal to me, but I know when I was younger, I was quite sensitive, so I probably would have reacted the same as your DD. But then, would have forgotten all about it a week later!

Don't dwell on it -not good for you or DD.

columngollum · 13/01/2014 13:02

I would put it down to experience and clean the trainers faster next time.

lougle · 13/01/2014 13:11

She should have said something that was more direct. It's part of learning effective communication skills.

Perhaps mention it to the teacher, but if she needed trainers for that day, they should have been there.

Danann · 13/01/2014 13:12

Speak to the teacher and let her know what happened and how upset your daughter is about this, she should have let your daughter explain.

Phoebe47 · 14/01/2014 19:05

The teacher should not have called your daughter a liar. Very unprofessional and I speak as a teacher myself. She could have asked where your daughter's trainers were and then this upset would have been avoided. I would have a quiet word with the teacher (not all guns blazing though) and hopefully, she will apologise to your daughter and all will be well again.

Smartiepants79 · 14/01/2014 19:14

How the whole conversation was worded is quite important I think. Did your DD say "i don't have any trainers" which is technically an untrue statement when taken in its own or " I haven't got them today" ? Did the teacher actually use the word liar? Because that is unprofessional. However in similar circumstances in a moment of frustatration with the 4th child that day to tell me they've not got proper kit I can see myself perhaps calling/teasing a child with the word 'fibber' or similar. Seems a little odd that she was not allowed to finish her sentences though.

Missing kit is VERY irritating! Sounds like she was having a bad day!

lilyaldrin · 14/01/2014 19:18

This really sounds so trivial. I wouldn't do anything, other than play it down a bit to your DD and tell her never mind.

I can't believe people would really go and see the teacher about this!

morethanpotatoprints · 14/01/2014 19:25

I would definitely talk to the teacher.

She is TEACHING your dd to interrupt, not get the facts right, to humiliate, and what's so concerning is that she is teaching a full class this is acceptable behaviour.
She is not on her own, I can remember so many incidents like this from my now grown up dc. It seems common in secondary school.
There is no way I would allow people to talk to impressionable young people like this and find it unacceptable, but I'm probably on my own with this.

shanefolan29 · 17/04/2018 20:32

''This really sounds so trivial. I wouldn't do anything, other than play it down a bit to your DD and tell her never mind.

I can't believe people would really go and see the teacher about this!''

as a teacher you would be shocked at the amount of ridiculous trivial stuff parents come in and complain about-it is like they have no lives.

BarbarianMum · 17/04/2018 20:52

You asked 8 other children about something as trivial as this? Seriously, relax.

Witchend · 17/04/2018 22:05

It also depends on how you asked the 8 other children. An awful lot of children if asked by an adult "did teacher call X a liar" will just say "yes".

Let it go.

user789653241 · 17/04/2018 22:27

Why keep reviving zombie threads, Shane?

wurlie · 17/04/2018 22:54

as a teacher you would be shocked at the amount of ridiculous trivial stuff parents come in and complain about-it is like they have no lives.

Unlike you who has just resurrected a thread from 4 years ago.

Pengggwn · 18/04/2018 07:14

Next time write the note? And don't take everything your child says at face value - ask the teacher what she actually said. She may well feel what she said was reasonable.

viques · 18/04/2018 18:01

@hannahmum35. I wonder if you would mind popping back onto this four year old thread and letting us know what happened please. many thanks.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 18/04/2018 19:48

A whole pile of nothing. Why did it take two days to clean the trainers anyway? You should have either cleaned them the night before or sent them in as they were.

Snowysky20009 · 18/04/2018 20:04

viques lol

shanefolan29 · 21/04/2018 15:21

''You asked 8 other children about something as trivial as this? Seriously, relax.''

exactly, the amount of parents I have seen making mountains out of molehills over the years is ridiculous. It makes me think as to how little is going on in the parent's life in that they listen to everything a 9 year old tells them, takes it at face value and goes to the bother of coming into the school to complain/enquire when a bit of common sense would tell them that the child is clearly lying or exaggerating or completely blowing the incident out of proportion.

The worst are the parents who accuse the teacher of lying as ''i know my child and i know he/she would never lie to me.'' Some parents are clearly deluded.

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