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Yr 4 DS dreading going back

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luckywinner · 06/01/2014 23:12

My lovely ds, who has always enjoyed school. He has a strong group of friends. At his parent/teacher meeting in October, his new teacher said he is just above average, but coasts. I agree with her. He is an intelligent child who is a happy soul, who is very interested in school topics, but is capable of more.

His new teacher said at the meeting she was going to move him to her table, especially for big writing, and she was going to push him as she wanted to get more out of him.

To begin with I was pleased she was making this effort, and being proactive. But I get the feeling it has backfired a bit. My son is a softie, who takes everything to heart, and wears his heart on his sleeve. She is known as a shouty teacher with not much of a sense of humour.

She is definitely on his case but it has resulted in him now dreading school. I overheard him saying to dd that he wanted to be homeschooled, as I wouldn't shout at him like his teacher does.

He has done a couple of pieces of work on their topics outside his homework and taken them into school. When I ask him if she liked them he said she hadn't seen them.

On the eve of them going back to school I feel quite sad for him. I know the answer is to meet with his teacher, but the school head is very defensive of her staff, and any attempt to discuss difficulties is always met with defence.

Anyone got any tips on how to handle this?

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lljkk · 07/01/2014 19:20

Is this a state or private school (you have more leverage with latter, I think).

forgetandforgive · 08/01/2014 12:48

i say if you concerned make an appointment and speak to the class teacher about your worry. my sons moved school last summer holiday and there was many occasion where i regretted moving him. but gradually they settled down. my eldest son yr 5 is not performing as well academically. English is his second language, his teacher has told me that he's below average on his core subjectsz, which i was already aware of. he doesn't enjoy lessons but is getting extra support for reading and maths. i am abit concerned that he will struggle when he starts secondary school. but i don't want to put too much pressure on him as he struggles with the ability to concentrate in class.

Biscuitsneeded · 08/01/2014 14:15

My Y4 DS is saying similar things, but to be honest i think it's just that it's getting more serious now. More work is expected of them, teachers get a bit tougher, children try to push boundaries a bit more so teachers have to be seen to be a bit sterner. My DS is naturally lazy so is being harangued by a frustrated teacher who knows he's capable of more than he is giving. I'm genuinely sorry for him that school isn't quite as much fun as it used to be, when he could coast along with little effort, but I'm taking all the 'I hate school' and 'Mrs X is horrible' comments with an enormous pinch of salt... All children probably THINK they would like to be home-schooled!

TheRoundTable · 08/01/2014 14:46

My Year 4 DD said the exact same thing! She said, "I am having a heart attack!!!!" She can be dramatic, but she was so anxious about going back that her heart was racing.

Teacher is quite strict and there's more work. DD is overly sensitive and is convinced her teacher doesn't like her or her work.

luckywinner · 15/01/2014 14:41

My ds is definitely like that. He is a complete coaster and now I think he's being pushed and doesn't like that. Tbh I like that his teacher is not going to let him coast under the radar. Am hoping it's because she thinks he is more capable than he is being now. He is a bit lazy, does the bare minimum. I have also decided to take it with a huge pinch of salt. And he is pfb so I probably guilty of a my poor baby reaction.

Thanks all of you though. Feel a bit better about it. Smile

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