Help! DS came out of school a bit quiet and subdued today, this is not usual as he is autistic and he usually leaves school with enthusiasm
and keen to do other things. So I asked him what the problem was but he wouldn't say until we were nearly home.
His Maths set had a test today (I knew this was coming and had prepared him). The children who did well are being taken out for lunch on Thursday by the teacher ...only to McDonald's nothing fancy but obviously the children want to go.
Now I know that DS can be inconsistent with Maths and some days will score high and other days not so well, he has ADHD and Dyspraxia as well as ASD so has good and bad days academically. I sent him in on a "just do your best" basis and be happy. DS is in Y6 and achieveing NC level 3......just.
So he did his best. ...and today it just happens that his best wasnt brilliant....no biggy, thats just how it is for him some days. However, and this is my real concern, having got the children to mark their papers the teacher then got them to read their score out to the group. Now obviously for the children who got 18/19 & 20/20 this was okay, but for DS who scored the lowest at just 9/20 it was a massive issue, he felt embarrassed and didnt want to read his score out because it was the lowest. However, because everyone else in his set had to do this then so did he. So now every other child in his Maths set knows that DS scored significantly lower than anyone else.
Obviously he didnt score high enough for the trip and that is fine apart from the fact that only three of the set are not going. He is the only child with SEN in the group. So much is hapoening in school tnis week that I doubt he will notice some children missing Thursday lunchtime which is when the trip will take place.
I havr always been happy with the school but never really liked the HT who I find intimidating. He doesnt listen and talks over parents. ....guess who is taking DS for Maths? This HT has his favourites among children, staff and parents.....that doesnt include me. He has loads of time for parents he wants to talk to but talks over those he isnt interested in.....which includes me. The one time I rang to discuss somwthing with him he more or less talked all over me down the phone witb the express intention of just gwtting rid of me. This was upswtting as the reason I had contacted him was because he had told DS not to act like a two year old.....sorry but you just do NOT say that to an autistic kid who takes everything literally. He honestly did not want to listen to me. ....and I did not ring all guns blazing but just asked what had happened as DS returned from school raging and screaming, hitting me and himself.
Bit hacked off tbh.
I am a Governor too and he is no more interested in anything I have to say there....hes a mans man really but doea have one or two favoured women on the governing body.
So what do teachers think? Usual management of stuff or not.
FWIW he is retiring in 18 months. I have no doubts about his effectiveness as a teacher....DS finds his lessons interesting. I DO have issues with his one to one people skills though.