Y1 child parents evening. What next?

[Domple]

We went to DC parents evening a few weeks back and we're suprised to be told that he had been moved down a set. We were told it was because he was not doing anything in class and the teacher was not sure how he was doing. She felt that by moving him down and nearer the teacher he could ask for help and feel he could manage as he found he work easier that the other children on the table.

Forward a few weeks and DS has moved up a reading level and is starting to gain in confidence.

However my question is this I think that (having observed the class during a lesson) there is a lot of labelling going in. X you can do that as your are in higher set and I believe that there is a culture of low expectation.

At home DS does his homework well, reads well and is talkative. He understands and uses complex language.

We talked about the table he is now on and he describes it as a"nightmare table"he explained that he means the children misbehave.

What are we to do?

I think he has taken a while to settle in to the year, the formality of learning etc. but because he is quiet he could be overlooked in the longer term. I also think sitting on the table with kids who misbehave is not great and could be distracting in the long run.

I am concerned in the longer term he will believe that he is not good enough to achieve his potential!

Has anyone else any experience of this and any suggestions to help?

Weird. Only once have I had a teacher volunteer which set my child was in and that was only because I was fretting so much that his speech delay might hold him back.

I'm divided. Someone has to sit with the rowdy kids and he has progressed by your own reckoning, so maybe sitting closer to the teacher was what he needed to improve. but to tell teacher that he says he is unhappy sitting with those children is not unreasonable.

Domple:

I will say that at our school quiet, well-behaved children often are moved to lower tables for a term to serve as 'role models'. It isn't ideal and I'm pretty sure they don't enjoy it but it is a weapon in a teacher's arsenal.

Personally, I find the whole table thing and worrying/ striving to be at top table a game I'm not interested in playing. Of course I'd like my DD2 (far brighter than DD1) to be on top table and really getting stretched, but she's solidly on 2nd Table for reading/ writing and maths and has a more limited range of work than the top table.

My solution has been to do more at home and to not worry too much about what is going on at school. In general it has all come good in the end.

HTH

Thanks for replies. DS not bothered by the table he is sitting on and TBH the fact that he understand that their behaviour is not acceptable makes me less concerned. IYSWIM

I wish the teacher had not even mentioned the differences between the tables as this is what seems to be the issue that I need to get out of my mind. Having followed a very similar thread to mine. I am more reassured!