Would you keep moving your early primary age child from school to school if you were dissatisfied?

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Friend of mine in UK's daughter has been to one school for Reception, another for Years 1 & 2 and is about to go to her third school for Year 3. All private schools, and according to friend, there is always some problem with them - teacher in Reception didn't stretch child enough, Year 1 teacher pleasant enough, but child made no progress, Year 2 teacher "useless" and "hadn't heard anything good about Year 3 teacher" so decided to move her DD.

Personally, I think this is a bit excessive and disruptive for the child. Her DD is lovely, but VERY timid and has been in the bottom set for most subjects through school so far. Her mother is v bright and academic and I feel she expects her DD to follow in her footsteps. I know we all want the best for our children, but surely at this age they should be having fun and making friends, not being hoicked out of school and expected to make a new set of friends every year?

No I wouldnt. Why doesnt she put some extra welly in herself outside school hours if shes that worried and let her daughter settle in?
I would hate making friends knowing the chances were I would be leaving at the end of the year.

She puts loads of "extra welly" in as well. Child has fairly rigid homework schedule.
My DD is distraught to have left the school she has been at for the best part of 5 years (we are moving back to UK), so I dread to think what this little girl is feeling. I think this is really unsettling.

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I told her I would have given it a term with the new teacher to find out if the rumours about her are true or not. Think she was surprised and just expected me to agree with her decision. Another friend with child at same school as her DD's current school told her that she was mad and shouldn't listen to rumours - her son had had this particular teacher and had done very well.

could it be that her DD is not working as well as she could because she feels there is little point if she will move schools anyway? or that she is actually in bottom set naturally (can't believe that they have set's in primary!)

poor little girl no wonder she is in the bottom sets if shes being moved around so much.

She just sounds like a pushy parent who expects her dd to be a 'mini-me' and perhaps she, just, isn't!!

Not every child will be confident, sociable and bright, top set da-de-dah - everyone is different!

What's this about 'teacher in reception didn't stretch her enough'?? In RECEPTION?! She sounds like she needs to get a grip of herself, ease up on her dd and perhaps the little girl might start to enjoy school - progress might then follow?!

I feel sorry for the poor girl. I was moved to 3 different schools between the ages of 7 and 10 and it really affected me and my confidence levels which I took a long time to build back up. If the girl is quiet anyway the Mum really isn't doing her any favours. In my view if you need to move because of work or a serious reason fair enough. However just doing it because you are not sure about a teacher - and I'm betting if they are private schools she is attending they are going to be pretty good - you are giving the child unneccessary problems which could take her a long time to recover from.

tbh, it sounds as if your friend is never going to be satisfied with any school or any teacher. She seems to almost expect a personal tutor for her child, rather than a classroom teacher.

Primary school is about more than just the educational, there is a huge social side of things that this child will find harder to access as she is being constatly moved. making freinds is as important are learning alphabets at this stage.

If your friend is so sure that her child is missing out, the only way I think she would be satisfied is to home educate.

can't the poor woman just get to grips with the fact that her child might be a) a late developer or b) just of average intelligence

pushy cow

call social services

Ha! Cappucino! I was just thinking that.... About SS I mean.....silly woman!

And putting extra stuff in doesn't mean more homework and rigid timetables...not in this house anyway. It means taking kids out for the day to look at the world, reading to them even after they can do to themselves, explaining things that they don't understand. By the time my DS#1 was at school he could tell different kinds of trees apart, he knew the names of wild flowers, he recognised Mozart when he heard it, ....but he didn't read properly until he was 8. I personally think he's better educated that way Standards don't have to be purely academic.

joelallie I can't tell trees and flowers apart