Tutor, rather than websites or kumon, for giving a child (Yr5)confidence in maths?

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Ds1(nearly 10), Yr5, hates maths and has no confidence.
He is in top set ( there are 2). But says he struggles and gets the lowest marks, on his row, which he says is the easy row.
He says he doesn't mind going down to the bottom set.

He has Aspergers. And is very bright. Loves literacy.
I like maths. So I am a bit sad that he doesn't.

Last years lovely mats teacher recommended some sites:
crickweb, bbc, Oswego.

But he hasn't gone to these. Refuses to tells me which rules or topics he is struggling in. Despite me offering to help.
Now I am too ill to do it. And I just want someone else to take over, help him, teach him. Check that he has grasped the rules.
(The rules of probability, changing from questions that ask you : ml glass a day, for a week, glass in ml, answer in ltr. Does he get the rules of probability, symmetry etc).
And thus this will improve his confidence? Right?

My mum said she would pay. For something like kumon. But I think that is just repetitive rote learning. So shall I ask my mum to pay for a tutor?
Atleast they would come to my house. So less effort for me, when I am feeling particularly unwell.

I think if he just got someone to explain it. Then he would 'GET IT' and then the confidence would come. He wouldn't get the lowest marks in the set. And this would make him feel better, right?

Am I approaching this the right way?

Not massively similar but my sister gone one for my neice at a similar age, and again at GCSE and found it really helped.

Her problem was she didn't like to draw attention to herself in class by saying she didn't understand and the tutor helped to break it down and take more time to explain.

She paid by the hour and he usually came for 2 hours a week.

My neice was struggling a lot but managed to achieve decent grades. Can you maybe try it for 6 weeks and see if there is any improvement?

My dd attended Kumon for 2 years , it was fantastic fir her mental maths and really built her confidence. I took her out this year as she git to far. The sums she were doing were impressive, but shes not a performing monkey and it was of no use to her on class.

I will begin again next year after a year out to reonfirce everything she has learned.

It was hugely succesful for us.

The right tutor will improve his confidence beyond all measure. By his age I would expect him to benefit most from something tailored to his needs - someone knowledgeable and experienced enough to unpick where his difficulties lie and then build up his confidence. Kumon is much more of a one-size-fits-all approach (as I understand it) and isn't personalised at all. Where in the country are you - I know someone in Bucks! Your best bet would be to speak to his teacher and ask if they know of anyone - his teacher knows him and how might/might not click with him. If my DS is anything to go by, the relationship with a tutor is more important than anything else.

Thank you ice cream. Was exactly what I was thinking. To ask school who they recommend. That tutor would know school, know their syllabus.
Thanks for the suggestion of just hiring for 6 weeks.

The school will not be able to recommend. Could cause all sorts of issues. But if you have a good relationship with them they will be able to not recommend someone in such a way as you know what they are talking about!

Dd (also yr 5) was always languishing around the top end of the bottom set in maths, she always had to have top up classes in school to reach her targets by the end of the year. After Xmas last year she started with a tutor for an hour a week and she now gets along happily and confidently in the top set. It's been money very well spent and route coming to the house makes life so much easier than dragging her to a class.

Thank you. I will try and get one asap.

Thank you miaow. That is true. And I have reminded him. But maybe he needs reminding again.
His year is a wow year. Teachers say they are a particularly lively year. Head says you get a year like this, every five or six years or so. Blended and mixed so well.
And many of them , most of them are particularly bright.

We're using komodomaths.com - which I think is worth a look. When you sign up a maths teacher sets up the learning plans for each child. So far so good, kids like it, confidence and skill in numeracy is improved.